TransformYourLife

 Decide you want to develop the habit Start by indulging in the thing for 10 mins every day Increase the time to 20 minutes Continue the process for 21 days  Read motivational literature Surround self with positive people Never give up

 Start your day in time Be accountable to manager and team Stay focused Sit alone in a room Take short breaks Avoid caffine Avoid sugary treats and cookies Attend to kids /family only during breaks

 Eat smaller portions Include protein at each meal Include salads at each meal Eat whole foods Eat nuts and fruits as snack Limit toppings Limit ketchup, jams,cheese Eat home cooked meals Cut out sugar Avoid junk food 

 Checking your phone Stalking you on social media Wanting to spend every moment with you Forbidding you from talking to some people of opposite sex Insecurity Seeking constant validation Seeking constant affection History of broken relationships/abandonment Codependence Self image issues 

Prepare clothing in advance on sunday Meal prep for the week on weekend Listen to calming music before sleeping Do not drink alcohol on Sunday Read motivational books Wake up early Eat a healthy breakfast sans sugars Factor in traffic time Reach office early Take breaks between work

 There are many women we meet who are strong, bold and accomplished.They are leaders and pioneers in their field and are often independent.Most people are intimidated by their success and men are fearful of approaching them. They are fulfilled in all aspects of life-emotional, spiritual, financial , and yet, love and a good relationship deludes them.They either attract effeminate men or remain single for long periods of time.The men who ask them out are either put in their place early on and leave them or the relationship starts wherein she wears the pants with a weak man. Men find her impossible to deal with because she refuses to lower her guard .She is unfulfilled with the weak man This woman was most probably raised by a weak passive father/emotionally absent or alcoholic father.Her early male interaction taught her that the masculine cant be relied upon/is unsafe.She hence decide to take the reigns in her hands and became the man. Being with a weak male does not fulfil her. Sh...

 We have oftentimes seen that there are people who are afraid of taking any kind of risk in their lives.They stay at low paying jobs which don't fulfill them, stay in abusive relationships and never start their own initiatives/businesses even if they have the requisite skills. They hold onto security and trade it for new experiences.They live in fear of losing what they have if they chase what they can have.They also have abundance blocks at times and feel unworthy of bigger and better things. They live mired in fear and see life pass by them. The fear stems from previous losses and hardships in life. The way out is to acknowledge the past but not be a slave to it.

 Let us begin to understand what meditation is .Meditation is an age old technique which usually utilizes the breath to be able to calm the self, develop one pointed concentration and relieve stress.There are many meditation techniques like zen meditation, loving kindness meditation,mindfulness meditation, body scan ,kundalini yoga and meditation. When people start mediation , thoughts come and go and its harder to maintain an empty mind .As meditators progress, concentration deepens, equanimity and calm are achieved and stillness occurs. There are people who have to work harder than others to achieve this state while for some people it occurs with ease.Further, there are people who enjoy meditation more than others. Now coming to the cardinal question of whether meditation is the only way out of stress-the answer is no.Meditation alone is not the only stress relief avenue.Good sleep, a healthy diet and exercise and indulging in things one enjoys like hobbies are also avenues for s...

Social media platforms like instagram and facebook are an attention seekers paradise.These platforms are replete with lonely people who will engage with anything that shows up in their feed-all they need is to be stimulated.Further, some people have a habit of pressing like or heart button whenever they see a new post .This makes things fantastic for those seeking attention. The attention seeker comes in various forms-the over-sexed model in bikini pictures, the innocent girl pouting on a bad day, the gym rat showing off his muscles, the innocent girl sharing all her food pictures, the nerd getting photographed with the celebrity and so on.Those who seek validation to excessive levels often like their own posts or pictures by themselves as well. The following are the most common traits of attention seekers: Posting multiple times a day Posting provocative stuff  Urging engagement/comments Posting something negative like "I know i look like a dork in this pair of gl...

Capitalism has taught us to base our self worth on what we possess.Our possessions can range from wealth, property, car to partners and jobs.Having these lends us security, social standing and self-worth .Many people spend all their time acquiring these possessions. Further, many people base their sense of worth, potency and self-worth on how much they earn or what possessions they have.Natural calamities , pandemics and other unforseen incidents often cause one to lose their job and possessions. Downturns like a recession, loss in business, end of a relationship result in loss of these posessions.Attachment to these creates severe despair and one believes what one is "horrible " and "deserves nothing good" when these losses happen.Also, these people do not have a solid, well-developed sense of self and hence question their worth when such a loss occurs.They spend all their energy in trying to tide over the loss by acquiring newer possessions, often at the cos...

Life is a flowing river.We believe we are on a boat and are steering it in the river, but the truth is that the river is taking the boat where it wills.Our ego does not permit us to acknowledge this and we resist the flow.He harder the resistance, the greater is the blow to the boat.If we have prolonged resistance, the boat gets damaged and water begins to enter into it. It is hence a good idea to not resist the flow of life.One must accept the situation one is in and then take action to change it if one does not like it.By doing so, one has surrendered to "what is" and is not fighting from a place of resistance anymore.This eases the flow and makes it easier to navigate the path.

Emotional healing is the process of acknowledging our childhood wounds, behavior patters and traumas which prevent us from having healthy relationships and living a whole life.We often set up therapy sessions/read self help books/hire an online coach/attend community help healing sessions and the likes to change our patterns and evoke self love.Further, we journal, spend time with nature, meditate and relax to effect faster change. After a while, the changes start to take place.Within 8-12 months, we have undone our patterns, healed our wounds and start to attract healthier relationships.We feel energized, whole and happier.We believe this change is permanent. However, oftentimes during periods of loneliness, trauma or loss, the old patterns crop up.Self love goes out of the window.Neediness, clinging, jealousy, rage, avoidance, emotional dishonesty , witholding love,codependence raise their ugly head.Negative emotions buried deep within raise their ugly head. We relapse into ol...

The following are top 10 reasons why men stop texting He was in it only for the sex /thrill of chase He was dating someone else alongside and has become exclusive with her He cannot handle commitment in a relationship contrary to his initial pitch He has mixed emotions about the relationship He does not have the balls to break up and hence ghosts He becomes acutely aware of his demons and wants to run He is stressed-loss of job/death in family etc are common stressors He is feeling vulnerable He is ashamed of something he did and is hiding He feels you deserve better 

We often see women who only attract broke, abusive,emotionally battered/unavailable men .These men only offer crumbs in the relationship , are having underlying mental conditions/addictions and yet these women hold onto them and nurture them. The following are the reasons for the same: The woman was raised in an abusive environment and the paradigm of a relationship thus set for her was that riled in abuse The woman's father was emotionally unavailable and distant and she had to vie for his attention .She replicates the same in adult relationships. She has low self esteem and fear of being alone Subsconscious programming attracts her to those who feel familiar vibrationally, namely, the abusive and the unavailable She has a belief that if she rescues these men they will somehow grow to love her

They are full of self loathing They are pensive They project their negativity onto everyone They are energy vampires They have low self-esteem and bring yours down as well They are fear-based and have reservations with new things Their tendency to envision failure becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy They tend to thwart efforts of positive people They live limited lives They try to suck others into their own dramas

Living with parents after age 25 Recklessness Works intermittently or not at all Plays video games all day Has no goals or plans for life Is indisciplined Has no savings Eats intermittently and does not exercise Has no long term friends Cannot commit to anything/anyone long term

“When you wrestle with a pig in the mud, you get dirt over yourself!” This is a well known adage and holds true when dealing with an egoistical boss .The boss in question has a habit of being always right, ruling with an iron whip nothing short of being a dictator.He is not open to suggestions and gives incredibly harsh feedback. Further, he openly puts down subordinates in front of the management and pouts when he does not get his own way.He is nothing short of a grown man-child . Working with him leads to daily anxiety,panic attacks and one begins to question own self worth as well. The way out is to realize that not giving into the games he plays and standing firm in who you are can unsettle him .So allow him to bark all he wants-you focus on doing a good job .

Avoiding all social contact Not answering texts and phone calls Having an all pervading feeling of hopelessness Repeatedly questioning own self worth Loss of appetite and enthusiasm Listlessness Sleeping all day Suicidal thoughts over feeling worthless Headaches and panic attacks

Read books Cook various dishes Stay up all night chatting with family Cuddle with pets for hours Glance through old albums and collages Video conference with friends in different countries Relax and practice mindfulness meditation Indulge in prolonged self care including a bubble bath with scented candles Put on old records over a record player and dance Sleep all morning

Losing a job sucks and we know it.It takes a toll on our finances, emotional health and overall well-being.Many people's esteem is linked to their ability to be productive and ,when they lose a job, it plummets like never before. Further, for those who are married and have children, the loss of income puts a huge strain both on the marriage and the ability to make bills. Also, in a very bad economy where the situation is almost recession-like, it is almost impossible to land a new job.This leads to a feeling of hopeless resignation if one has been unable to find a new job in a long time.Many people withdraw from friends and family , sleep all day , over-eat and lose the will to fight for anything in such a phase.A mild depression often sets in.In extreme cases where the individual's identity was linked to the esteem the job provided, suicide is contemplated. While one can't improve the economy and the job market with snap of the fingers, one can definitely take step...