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A wrong email Money deposited in wrong account A lost client due to negligence A loss incurred to the company A wrongly prepared excel sheet Typos on a presentation The above are some of the common mistakes made at workplace.Such mistakes result in being shamed and yelled at by the boss.Team mates lose faith in you.You feel horrible.You feel like taking the next day off or hiding forever. The best way to bounce back after mistake is a)Reflect on its causes b)Take corrective action c)Apologize to those involved d) Exhibit consistent and trustworthy behavior in next days, it reduces the blow of previous mistakes e)Build skills in resilience f)Practice compassion and empathy for self because you are worthy despite the mistake 

Snide glances Avoiding each other in the elevator Constant disagreements Finding fault in each other's work Not co-operating as team mates Feeling anxious or angry around each other Wishing your co-worker (or you) would leave the job The above are some of the things two people who don't like each other do when they're around each other.In a work environment,one doesn't get to choose the co-workers .Also, at times one might be a new recruit somewhere and cannot get along with existing co-worker(s) or a new team member joins your existing team and you can't seem to tolerate them;they rub you up the wrong way all the time. No matter what you do, no matter how nice you try to be to that person,it just doesn't work and you leave work irritated and exhausted everyday.You're sure its them but it just might be you too;either party can irritate each other. On taking a deeper look one will realize that all that in them that irritates you is all that you d

Playing video games neglecting chores Eating an entire box of oreo cookies and then hitting the gym 7 days a week Lounging in office and then battling deadlines Losing oneself in daydreaming and missing  a flight The above are some of the common things one does repeatedly and is unable to break the spiral.Repeatedly indulging in such things takes us away from our goal and makes us why we are not able to stop.Despite putting in efforts to stop,we're unable to stop. Let us explore the reasons behind being unable to stop. The main reason for being unable to stop is because our brain is hardwired to chase pleasure and the above things feel good and pleasurable to it.Furthermore, due to doing them repeatedly, our brain thinks of them as familiar by now and is hardwired move towards what feels familiar. The good news though is that our brain is plastic and we can change these patterns by making the familiar unfamilar and the unfamiliar familiar.This would entail taking tiny

Finger pointing Calling others names Telling friends I'm better than you because I am not lazy Treating those with less wealth with disdain Telling gym mates they're slobs when they don't match your appetite of lifting Perfectionism and flaunting it Telling others that their life choices suck Asserting superiority by way of belonging to a particular country or religion The above are activities which fall under the ambit of judging others.Many people constantly judge others.They tell their family and friends that they suck.They are constantly negative and critical of everyone around them. Judgement is rooted in toxic shame and self worth.By judging others, one temporarily (falsely) elevates oneself and feels superior to them.By doing so,the inner feeling of worthlessness is temporarily displaced and one feels grandiose and powerful for a short while.After the potency of this fleeting feeling passes away, one is back to feeling worthless and judges some more.So,it