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Playing video games neglecting chores Eating an entire box of oreo cookies and then hitting the gym 7 days a week Lounging in office and then battling deadlines Losing oneself in daydreaming and missing  a flight The above are some of the common things one does repeatedly and is unable to break the spiral.Repeatedly indulging in such things takes us away from our goal and makes us why we are not able to stop.Despite putting in efforts to stop,we're unable to stop. Let us explore the reasons behind being unable to stop. The main reason for being unable to stop is because our brain is hardwired to chase pleasure and the above things feel good and pleasurable to it.Furthermore, due to doing them repeatedly, our brain thinks of them as familiar by now and is hardwired move towards what feels familiar. The good news though is that our brain is plastic and we can change these patterns by making the familiar unfamilar and the unfamiliar familiar.This would entail taking tiny ...

The first meeting Fleeting glances Smiles and laughter Diner dates Walks on the beach Commitment Moving in together Disagreements Non-matching intimacy requirements Fights Explosive fights Quest for peace Breakup Zen meditation class Temporary peace Same patterns in next relationship(s) This is how relationships typically pan out and thereafter one wonders why each of my relationships followed the same course-same type of partner, same reasons for incompatibility ,same kinds of endings. The answer to this lies in wiring in childhood. In our development phases as children, we observe our immediate caregivers and our parents marriage is the first model for what a marriage looks like. What also matters is the quality of our relationship with opposite sex parent-it models our subsequent interactions with members of the opposite sex. If our opposite sex parent was abusive, we wow to ourselves never to be with someone like that. However, if we look back at our relat...