TransformYourLife

“You do something wonderful,and chase it all away Mixing my emotions throws me back again Hanging on the wire,I’m waiting for the change I’m cruising through the fire,just to catch a flame And feel again”                                                                -Paul Weller in ‘You do something to me’ Take a hypothetical situation where a man gets into a new relationship with a girl he very much likes. Everything is amazing-she is faithful and devoted and the relationship is progressing at a decent pace It reaches a stage where he comes  very close to the girl emotionally and his past fears come back. Imagine a 7 year old  child whose house caught fire, he got burnt badly, rescued by fire fighters and hospitalized for a month .When he returns home to the now re-modeled house ,he is afraid of anything ...

Loneliness: You sleep all day and stay up all night You spend most of the time alone You avoid the company of people You have no actual,reliable friends Accountability and commitment: You avoid taking responsibility for your actions You have emotional pain from the past that you’ve not fixed You use numbing tactics like alcohol, drugs and porn to deflect the past pain You do not like to make commitments to yourself or others because they require follow through You do not like accountability You avoid those who challenge you or insist you change for better You get triggered and howl if your comfort zone changes even slightly You have difficulty following through You do not like your life or schedule getting disrupted and at the same time wonder why you’ve stayed stuck and small You make grand plans for work in your mind but your follow through is inconsistent and less than 5%    Commitment to self : You only eat two...