TransformYourLife

The first meeting Fleeting glances Smiles and laughter Diner dates Walks on the beach Commitment Moving in together Disagreements Non-matching intimacy requirements Fights Explosive fights Quest for peace Breakup Zen meditation class Temporary peace Same patterns in next relationship(s) This is how relationships typically pan out and thereafter one wonders why each of my relationships followed the same course-same type of partner, same reasons for incompatibility ,same kinds of endings. The answer to this lies in wiring in childhood. In our development phases as children, we observe our immediate caregivers and our parents marriage is the first model for what a marriage looks like. What also matters is the quality of our relationship with opposite sex parent-it models our subsequent interactions with members of the opposite sex. If our opposite sex parent was abusive, we wow to ourselves never to be with someone like that. However, if we look back at our relat...

Our life is like an unguided ship at birth.Some people meander through life letting it take its own course while others like to take the reins in their own hands.They realize that life is short, finite and laced with difficulties.They set their priorities right and are clear about what all they want to accomplish before dying. On their death bed,they want to have lived their life plan and have the satisfaction of having lived a full life.Hence one must take concrete steps to plan for desired outcomes which is done by creating a life plan The following are the steps to creating and living a life plan: Enlist the key people /missions in your life   in your life Spouse Children Colleagues Parents Building a business Leaving a legacy These can be some of the things important to an individual. When it comes to children, one might want to be remembered as a good parent who helped them learn values,set goals and stood by them in terms of all emoti...

6 am alarm.Snooze 15 minute intervals.Waking up with a bang.Subway to office.Mayo sandwich breakfast and sweet coffee.Conference calls.Asshole boss barking orders.Client demands.Project after project.Chinese takeout diner while at work.6 more cups of sweetened cappuccino . Belly fat and sleep deprivation.Exhaustion.Burnout. Screw my paycheck and upcoming promotion; I just want to sleep for 48 hours flat.Questioning the meaning of existence. This is the typical cycle of events any busy executive in a large city experiences.They contemplate leaving their job and going to a monastery for a few months seeking peace but then the paycheck lures them back.Also, they are addicted to the grind even if they don’t admit to it. Back to work and the burnout continues. What then is the way out? For someone who has to go back to work there is no way out other than to strike a balance between time for self and work no matter how horrible the hours or demands at work are.Time f...

I hate my life and job right now My boss is a chimp Everyone has it better than me I have the meanest parents ever;if it was not for them I would’ve definitely succeeded in my career I don’t like my cartier earrings anymore How dare the train arrive 30 nano-seconds late!!!Do they not know how late I’ll be to the meeting with investors from Saudi? The man on the table next to mine got his quinoa salad in 5 mins while I’ve been tapping my Rado watch here for 40 minutes now.But you waiters at this restaurant are such cunts that….Phew!I’ll frickin get myself an unhealthy hotdog now, thanks very much for killing my enthusiasm to eat healthy!!! The above are some of the examples of complaining in day-to-day life. It has zero efficacy and only leads to an enhancement of negativity The situation does not change no matter how much one complains or whines Nobody cares if you complain It depletes positive energy It enhances toxicity It makes the ...

Take a typical scenario of a day in early January.You have written your new year goals.You have declared them to everyone around you.You have been pumped about starting that jog with your fitbit and penning down your first NYT bestseller on spiritual awakening.Not to mention eating 40 grams of greens daily.So many goals and bubbling enthusiasm!! Now fast forward to 26 th January .Its time to sit and start writing that paperback.There were ideas brimming in your mind through the Christmas party and its time to translate them into a book now.You pull out your laptop.You then tell yourself you will start after a cup of coffee and go to the kitchen.Your mind shifts from the target as you heat water for coffee.The voices in your head start becoming louder.They start telling you that you’re not a writer,how will you even manage to write.You’re not good enough, nobody will read you.No publishers will bother with you.What if mom and aunt Jane don’t like the book and criticize for it?Wh...

We have all heard that “We are what we eat”.There is nothing more true than this maxim. In today's times our life is extremely hectic and stressful.It is very easy to reach out for that bag of chips or those muffins and end up eating more than 500 calories beyond what is needed.This leads to piling on pounds and can also cause bloating,acidity and bad skin. There are ways to eat for good health.If we eat that way we end up reducing our stress, get our daily doses of antioxidants and getting the nutrients necessary for being healthy. There are few simple laws of eating , here is how: Eat a balanced breakfast :Breakfast provides fuel to your body.If you skip it, you will crave food all day and in much larger quantities than you actually need.A balanced breakfast consistsing of good carbs, lean /vegan protein and few veggies will help kickstart your metabolism and keep you full all day. Eat according to your activity levels: Calories are fuel for your body.If you ...