TransformYourLife

 Checking your phone Stalking you on social media Wanting to spend every moment with you Forbidding you from talking to some people of opposite sex Insecurity Seeking constant validation Seeking constant affection History of broken relationships/abandonment Codependence Self image issues 

 There are many women we meet who are strong, bold and accomplished.They are leaders and pioneers in their field and are often independent.Most people are intimidated by their success and men are fearful of approaching them. They are fulfilled in all aspects of life-emotional, spiritual, financial , and yet, love and a good relationship deludes them.They either attract effeminate men or remain single for long periods of time.The men who ask them out are either put in their place early on and leave them or the relationship starts wherein she wears the pants with a weak man. Men find her impossible to deal with because she refuses to lower her guard .She is unfulfilled with the weak man This woman was most probably raised by a weak passive father/emotionally absent or alcoholic father.Her early male interaction taught her that the masculine cant be relied upon/is unsafe.She hence decide to take the reigns in her hands and became the man. Being with a weak male does not fulfil her. Sh...

Physical and emotional intimacy is the most beautiful and satisfying feeling ever.Intimacy requires us to become vulnerable and to be seen by another.It also requires that we surrender control and give ourselves to another with the trust that they will love and uphold us. However, most of us are carrying shame from our childhood.It makes us feel insecure and defective and afraid of being seen by another.Hiding, closing eyes, freezing and acting distant are some of the ways in which we retract from truly merging with another due to fear of revealing our true selves.Shutting down our emotions is yet another method for the same. Women have a fear of vocalizing their needs and truly enjoying the beauty of intimacy because they have been taught to be needless and silent since childhood.Thus, when they meet a conscious emotionally fluid   man they hide and don’t know how to conduct self in relationship. Emotional blockages erode intimacy.They prevent us from truly merging wi...

It’s natural to imagine that the highest virtue in love would be kindness and, a close second, politeness. But there is an odd danger lurking here: a relationship where we are overly polite, where there is not enough directness, where things go wrong not because of a lack of tenderness or serenity but because of a stifling excess of manners, because there aren’t enough raised voices, insults, legitimate furies and moments where both partners feel free to call each other idiots and much worse. When we hear arguments between lovers, perhaps through a hotel bedroom wall, it is easy to fear for them and their union. But there is, within reason, something extremely vital and redemptive that can unfold within the occasional heated discussion. Living around someone is bound to be, at points, extremely disappointing. For love to remain vital, we need the freedom to give this disappointment expression. It seems we cannot love if love is all we are allowed to do. Many of us have implici...