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The truth behind masculine female

 There are many women we meet who are strong, bold and accomplished.They are leaders and pioneers in their field and are often independent.Most people are intimidated by their success and men are fearful of approaching them.

They are fulfilled in all aspects of life-emotional, spiritual, financial , and yet, love and a good relationship deludes them.They either attract effeminate men or remain single for long periods of time.The men who ask them out are either put in their place early on and leave them or the relationship starts wherein she wears the pants with a weak man.

Men find her impossible to deal with because she refuses to lower her guard .She is unfulfilled with the weak man

This woman was most probably raised by a weak passive father/emotionally absent or alcoholic father.Her early male interaction taught her that the masculine cant be relied upon/is unsafe.She hence decide to take the reigns in her hands and became the man.

Being with a weak male does not fulfil her.

She wants to be led by a strong man despite her strength.In order to allow such a man she will have to learn how to surrender, be open to receiving and step into her feminie.

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