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Comparing oneself to others Feeling threatened by the competence of others Gossiping about others Judgement of others to elevate self The above are some of the behaviors that insecure people indulge in repeatedly.They feel anxious, nervous and inadequate about themselves for most part.Many have tried stopping these behaviors but have been unable to do so. One needs to understand that insecure parents have indulged in the very same behaviors around you since childhood and you emulated them.They had no sense of worth, lived through your achievements and expected you to look and dress a particular way so that they are (falsely) uplifted by the praise coming their way via you. You have also been made to believe that you are your achievements/behavior by your parents which is where the comparisons and obsessive need to achieve stems from.Further, being compared with other children and being shamed for inadequacies you have has led to deep rooted self doubt. ...

Finger pointing Calling others names Telling friends I'm better than you because I am not lazy Treating those with less wealth with disdain Telling gym mates they're slobs when they don't match your appetite of lifting Perfectionism and flaunting it Telling others that their life choices suck Asserting superiority by way of belonging to a particular country or religion The above are activities which fall under the ambit of judging others.Many people constantly judge others.They tell their family and friends that they suck.They are constantly negative and critical of everyone around them. Judgement is rooted in toxic shame and self worth.By judging others, one temporarily (falsely) elevates oneself and feels superior to them.By doing so,the inner feeling of worthlessness is temporarily displaced and one feels grandiose and powerful for a short while.After the potency of this fleeting feeling passes away, one is back to feeling worthless and judges some more.So,it...