Judgement of others

Finger pointing
Calling others names
Telling friends I'm better than you because I am not lazy
Treating those with less wealth with disdain
Telling gym mates they're slobs when they don't match your appetite of lifting
Perfectionism and flaunting it
Telling others that their life choices suck
Asserting superiority by way of belonging to a particular country or religion

The above are activities which fall under the ambit of judging others.Many people constantly judge others.They tell their family and friends that they suck.They are constantly negative and critical of everyone around them.

Judgement is rooted in toxic shame and self worth.By judging others, one temporarily (falsely) elevates oneself and feels superior to them.By doing so,the inner feeling of worthlessness is temporarily displaced and one feels grandiose and powerful for a short while.After the potency of this fleeting feeling passes away, one is back to feeling worthless and judges some more.So,it is,in essence, a toxic self created cycle.

Breaking the cycle entails healing the toxic shame .

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