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Emotional blockages and how they manifest during intimacy


Physical and emotional intimacy is the most beautiful and satisfying feeling ever.Intimacy requires us to become vulnerable and to be seen by another.It also requires that we surrender control and give ourselves to another with the trust that they will love and uphold us.

However, most of us are carrying shame from our childhood.It makes us feel insecure and defective and afraid of being seen by another.Hiding, closing eyes, freezing and acting distant are some of the ways in which we retract from truly merging with another due to fear of revealing our true selves.Shutting down our emotions is yet another method for the same.

Women have a fear of vocalizing their needs and truly enjoying the beauty of intimacy because they have been taught to be needless and silent since childhood.Thus, when they meet a conscious emotionally fluid  man they hide and don’t know how to conduct self in relationship.
Emotional blockages erode intimacy.They prevent us from truly merging with the partner.

Healing them entails releasing the shame around them and knowing that expression is both validated and accepted.

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