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How to work with a co-worker you don't like

Snide glances
Avoiding each other in the elevator
Constant disagreements
Finding fault in each other's work
Not co-operating as team mates
Feeling anxious or angry around each other
Wishing your co-worker (or you) would leave the job

The above are some of the things two people who don't like each other do when they're around each other.In a work environment,one doesn't get to choose the co-workers .Also, at times one might be a new recruit somewhere and cannot get along with existing co-worker(s) or a new team member joins your existing team and you can't seem to tolerate them;they rub you up the wrong way all the time.

No matter what you do, no matter how nice you try to be to that person,it just doesn't work and you leave work irritated and exhausted everyday.You're sure its them but it just might be you too;either party can irritate each other.

On taking a deeper look one will realize that all that in them that irritates you is all that you detest within yourself .This helps you to be more calm and practice patience while dealing both with themselves and your own self.

Also, one can actually have a matured conversation with the intent of being flexible to make it work with the co-worker whom you don't like; if both parties put in some effort it can actually work sufficiently to get through the week without major chaos and get the work done.

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