TransformYourLife

They are full of self loathing They are pensive They project their negativity onto everyone They are energy vampires They have low self-esteem and bring yours down as well They are fear-based and have reservations with new things Their tendency to envision failure becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy They tend to thwart efforts of positive people They live limited lives They try to suck others into their own dramas

Living with parents after age 25 Recklessness Works intermittently or not at all Plays video games all day Has no goals or plans for life Is indisciplined Has no savings Eats intermittently and does not exercise Has no long term friends Cannot commit to anything/anyone long term

“When you wrestle with a pig in the mud, you get dirt over yourself!” This is a well known adage and holds true when dealing with an egoistical boss .The boss in question has a habit of being always right, ruling with an iron whip nothing short of being a dictator.He is not open to suggestions and gives incredibly harsh feedback. Further, he openly puts down subordinates in front of the management and pouts when he does not get his own way.He is nothing short of a grown man-child . Working with him leads to daily anxiety,panic attacks and one begins to question own self worth as well. The way out is to realize that not giving into the games he plays and standing firm in who you are can unsettle him .So allow him to bark all he wants-you focus on doing a good job .

Avoiding all social contact Not answering texts and phone calls Having an all pervading feeling of hopelessness Repeatedly questioning own self worth Loss of appetite and enthusiasm Listlessness Sleeping all day Suicidal thoughts over feeling worthless Headaches and panic attacks

Read books Cook various dishes Stay up all night chatting with family Cuddle with pets for hours Glance through old albums and collages Video conference with friends in different countries Relax and practice mindfulness meditation Indulge in prolonged self care including a bubble bath with scented candles Put on old records over a record player and dance Sleep all morning

Losing a job sucks and we know it.It takes a toll on our finances, emotional health and overall well-being.Many people's esteem is linked to their ability to be productive and ,when they lose a job, it plummets like never before. Further, for those who are married and have children, the loss of income puts a huge strain both on the marriage and the ability to make bills. Also, in a very bad economy where the situation is almost recession-like, it is almost impossible to land a new job.This leads to a feeling of hopeless resignation if one has been unable to find a new job in a long time.Many people withdraw from friends and family , sleep all day , over-eat and lose the will to fight for anything in such a phase.A mild depression often sets in.In extreme cases where the individual's identity was linked to the esteem the job provided, suicide is contemplated. While one can't improve the economy and the job market with snap of the fingers, one can definitely take step...

The very nature of life is impermanent.The color of leaves of trees changes, seasons follow each other cyclically, we grow older by the day, we experience periods of happiness, sorrow and misery followed by other emotions again. Thus, life is not static.It is constantly changing-ever evolving. In the context of this evolution,if the shifts in events are not major, or say "tectonic shifts", we presume life is , in general, stable .However, major events like a divorce, loss of job or loved one throws us off balance. Understanding that these events too, just like the "lesser significant" ones, are a part of the ebb and flow. It is the hankering for permanence and stability that creates misery.Attachment to supposed stability is the root of it. Keeping a not knowing mind, flowing freely,accepting what comes in the path and holding onto the belief that"this too shall pass" is the only way out!