TransformYourLife

Losing a job sucks and we know it.It takes a toll on our finances, emotional health and overall well-being.Many people's esteem is linked to their ability to be productive and ,when they lose a job, it plummets like never before. Further, for those who are married and have children, the loss of income puts a huge strain both on the marriage and the ability to make bills. Also, in a very bad economy where the situation is almost recession-like, it is almost impossible to land a new job.This leads to a feeling of hopeless resignation if one has been unable to find a new job in a long time.Many people withdraw from friends and family , sleep all day , over-eat and lose the will to fight for anything in such a phase.A mild depression often sets in.In extreme cases where the individual's identity was linked to the esteem the job provided, suicide is contemplated. While one can't improve the economy and the job market with snap of the fingers, one can definitely take step...

The very nature of life is impermanent.The color of leaves of trees changes, seasons follow each other cyclically, we grow older by the day, we experience periods of happiness, sorrow and misery followed by other emotions again. Thus, life is not static.It is constantly changing-ever evolving. In the context of this evolution,if the shifts in events are not major, or say "tectonic shifts", we presume life is , in general, stable .However, major events like a divorce, loss of job or loved one throws us off balance. Understanding that these events too, just like the "lesser significant" ones, are a part of the ebb and flow. It is the hankering for permanence and stability that creates misery.Attachment to supposed stability is the root of it. Keeping a not knowing mind, flowing freely,accepting what comes in the path and holding onto the belief that"this too shall pass" is the only way out!

Acknowledge that you are worthy and wonderful Assert yourself without worrying about backlash Shed insecurity instilled inadvertently by parents Know your values and worth-do not bend backwards compromising on them Be willing to let go of situations and people which don’t serve you Identify and embody your purpose Take care of your physical and emotional health.A healthy body and mind radiates confidence. Choose your inner circle carefully.Strong, goal -oriented people make good inspiration. Stick to your boundaries .You command respect and exude confidence when you do that Do not be afraid of growth oriented changes, they boost your confidence

There was an era when those suffering from plague were considered lethal and shunned at all costs.In today’s world, the plague has been replaced by mental health.Those with anxiety, depression,bipolar/suicidal thoughts or more serious forms of mental illness and disorders like narcissistic personality disorder and schizophrenia are treated as   though they are terrorists with a bio-gene out to destroy our planet by supposedly healthy people.They are unable to form friendships,have a good social life and end up living cloistered lives from the fear of being found out.Loneliness, shame and depression become their unwanted companions. Here is how those with mental health issues can destroy the stigma around it: ·                 Understand that suffering from a mental health issue is not a bad thing (it’s not something to be guilty of like maybe killing someone)           ...

Cheer up honey Why are you always glum? No matter what I do for you, you’re never happy!Phew! Stop being so darn lazy ! Why are you sleeping all the time? Gosh, you’re so clumsy ! How can your mood swing so much ?You were normal 2 mins back and now you’re in tears! Why are you always snapping at people? Why can’t you just get over it? You’re useless around the house!

Trauma bonding Depression Remembering the illusion of who they presented themselves as Being falsely in love with an idealized version of them Seeking attention in loneliness Familiarity to abusive parent Addiction to abuse since childhood Low self esteem No sense of self Lack of boundaries

         We often see that there are some women who have a series of failed relationships .The relationship ends because the man could not commit or cheated.Each of their relationships ends due to similar reasons. The men she chose were often distant/made intermittent contact, were emotionally unavailable or controlling and abusive-none of which bode well for the success of a relationship . Let us look into the reasons for the same: The woman was raised by an imbecile father who was emotionally distant OR she was raised by an abusive father The woman's father was never truly intimate She learnt never to rely on another man She subconsciously chose men who were only peripherally present but emotionally absent and were not after her heart because they felt familiar due to subconscious programming She suffered from the 'father wound' which is basically a deep wound due to a father who emotionally abandoned her by being distant/abusive/unavailable Thus...