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Why passion towards goal fades away


“What we don’t have is that which we have not sufficiently desired yet”

What is Passion?
Passion is that burning desire to achieve a goal .It can be any kind of goal-your own house, a successful business or simply traveling around the globe with your own funds.It is quite often that initially one is all fired up about such a goal but the fire is extinguished within no time.The fire is also hard to re-kindle/gets re-kindled for some other goal but meets the same fate.

Why the passion fades away

The passion was not our own-We saw someone running a successful business or partying in yachts and thought that that was what we wanted and was a means to escape corporate life.
We want the fruits but not willing to till the farmland-We were fascinated by the rewards of the success we saw but have shied away from putting in the hard work
Our supposed passion was to fit in-We realized a lot of our cool millineal friends were either starting up or turning coaches and wanted to fit into the mould as against being outcast for being conventional and boring, so we pretended to be wanting to do those things as well
Our supposed passion was an escape-We thought that starting something new would help us escape the misery of mortgage, crying baby and constant whining at home.Apparently it didn’t’.
Our supposed passion was to prove a point-Many a times we have negative and critical family members who , due to their own self loathing, tell us that we won’t ever amount to much.Sometimes we take up new things to prove them wrong but then we can’t complete those things.

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