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Don’t knock yourself out of the game before you get the bat!”
“If you keep doing the same things over and over again you will get the same results”.

What are patterns
If we do things over and over again in the same fashion, a pattern results.Our minds and bodies grow accustomed to these patterns.Sometimes they get embedded in our subconscious.We also , at times, mindlessly carry on with those patterns for an infinite time.

Why are patterns ineffective
We do them without thinking
There is no metric for measuring effectiveness
There is no scope of change
We are hard-wired to do them
Nothing in terms of betterment comes of it

How to break old patterns
Acknowledge ineffectiveness
Prime yourself for change
Realize that life is too short to keep running in circles
Envision the growth you want and make a plan to reach there
Start being pumped
Stick to the plan without paying heed to environment,stress,business cycle changes
Surround yourself with people who will hold you accountable and kick your ass hard
Own your evasive tactics,bullshit stories and “I cannot”
Evaluate every two days and weekly how you’re progressing
Gauge progress by hard metrics
Change course of things midway if a particular approach is not working
Don’t get caught up in mundane things
Sharpen focus
If you’re going off track continue to take two steps forward for every one backward till backsliding stops
Celebrate each milestone
Repeatedly tell yourself that you were born to do great things and not sit in front of TV eating popcorn all day
Continue with the aim of mastery and not short term gratification

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