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Doing the impossible to get ahead in life



“Don’t knock yourself out of the game before you get the bat!”
“If you keep doing the same things over and over again you will get the same results”.

What are patterns

If we do things over and over again in the same fashion, a pattern results.Our minds and bodies grow accustomed to these patterns.Sometimes they get embedded in our subconscious.We also , at times, mindlessly carry on with those patterns for an infinite time.

Why are patterns ineffective
  • We do them without thinking
  • There is no metric for measuring effectiveness
  • There is no scope of change
  • We are hard-wired to do them
  • Nothing in terms of betterment comes of it


How to break old patterns
  • Acknowledge ineffectiveness
  • Prime yourself for change
  • Realize that life is too short to keep running in circles
  • Envision the growth you want and make a plan to reach there
  • Start being pumped
  • Stick to the plan without paying heed to environment,stress,business cycle changes
  • Surround yourself with people who will hold you accountable and kick your ass hard
  • Own your evasive tactics,bullshit stories and “I cannot”
  • Evaluate every two days and weekly how you’re progressing
  • Gauge progress by hard metrics
  • Change course of things midway if a particular approach is not working
  • Don’t get caught up in mundane things
  • Sharpen focus
  • If you’re going off track continue to take two steps forward for every one backward till backsliding stops
  • Celebrate each milestone
  • Repeatedly tell yourself that you were born to do great things and not sit in front of TV eating popcorn all day
  • Continue with the aim of mastery and not short term gratification
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Comments

  1. MoodiefoodieJune 23, 2018 at 2:32 AM

    The best emotions and worst of the emotions are usually on the same pradigm of the effectiveness , quite true to what you have mentioned .
    Being hardwired to our failures gives us a fear to approve something new ..

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