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A wrong email Money deposited in wrong account A lost client due to negligence A loss incurred to the company A wrongly prepared excel sheet Typos on a presentation The above are some of the common mistakes made at workplace.Such mistakes result in being shamed and yelled at by the boss.Team mates lose faith in you.You feel horrible.You feel like taking the next day off or hiding forever. The best way to bounce back after mistake is a)Reflect on its causes b)Take corrective action c)Apologize to those involved d) Exhibit consistent and trustworthy behavior in next days, it reduces the blow of previous mistakes e)Build skills in resilience f)Practice compassion and empathy for self because you are worthy despite the mistake 

Gymming Eating right Getting enough sleep Investing in self- improvement Meeting new people Trying new activities Reading Traveling Spending time with friends Spending an evening with spouse/partner The above mentioned activities are supposed to be good activities and should fill us with happiness.However, we notice that even though we do these activities we do not feel happy from within. We then question what it is that is missing-why is it that these activities are not making us feel fulfilled and why does the inner emptiness still exist.Why is it that despite having good friends and a partner we are feeling unloved? The answer to these questions is that we feel empty and unfulfilled despite participating in multiple activities and having the love of friends and partner because we have been abandoning ourselves. What is self- abandonment? Self -abandonment is not taking adequate care of the emotional needs of core self.This leads ...

Fear of engulfment is the fear of getting controlled by partner or losing yourself in the relationship.It is a very strong fear of being swallowed by the partner and makes one run for the hills.The individual with this fear hence completely avoids relationships sometimes or is unable to sustain them and runs each time things begin to heat up. This fear is actually a fear of rejection .Due to this fear the individual gives too much in the early phases of the relationship so that they can please their partner and to ensure their partner likes them.They take responsibility for their partners feelings and want to make sure the partner stays happy and does not reject them.But this too much giving from the fear of rejection makes them feel trapped. The solution to this is to develop stronger boundaries, not take rejection personally and religiously practice inner bonding to develop a very strong sense of adult self. Let us see examples in of a person named Raymond who is 44 ...

6 am alarm.Snooze 15 minute intervals.Waking up with a bang.Subway to office.Mayo sandwich breakfast and sweet coffee.Conference calls.Asshole boss barking orders.Client demands.Project after project.Chinese takeout diner while at work.6 more cups of sweetened cappuccino . Belly fat and sleep deprivation.Exhaustion.Burnout. Screw my paycheck and upcoming promotion; I just want to sleep for 48 hours flat.Questioning the meaning of existence. This is the typical cycle of events any busy executive in a large city experiences.They contemplate leaving their job and going to a monastery for a few months seeking peace but then the paycheck lures them back.Also, they are addicted to the grind even if they don’t admit to it. Back to work and the burnout continues. What then is the way out? For someone who has to go back to work there is no way out other than to strike a balance between time for self and work no matter how horrible the hours or demands at work are.Time f...

What is stress It is the body’s emotional and physical response to the increase of external or internal imbalancing loads which are usually caused by extreme work demands Causes of stress Asshole boss Work unequally divided between colleagues Too much work, too small a team Artificial sense of urgency to deliver Strict deadlines Multiple projects Effects of stress Weight gain or loss Lack of sleep or over sleeping Too much caffeine,alcohol intake Release of cortisol and other stress hormones Inability to concentrate Irritability Break of friendships Inability to breathe well How to reduce stress Eat a balanced diet Exercise 3-4 times a week Cut out caffeine Meditate Read self-help books Take a short trip or hobby class Make your health a priority Develop boundaries at work Focus on hobbies and sleep