TransformYourLife

Emotional healing is the process of acknowledging our childhood wounds, behavior patters and traumas which prevent us from having healthy relationships and living a whole life.We often set up therapy sessions/read self help books/hire an online coach/attend community help healing sessions and the likes to change our patterns and evoke self love.Further, we journal, spend time with nature, meditate and relax to effect faster change. After a while, the changes start to take place.Within 8-12 months, we have undone our patterns, healed our wounds and start to attract healthier relationships.We feel energized, whole and happier.We believe this change is permanent. However, oftentimes during periods of loneliness, trauma or loss, the old patterns crop up.Self love goes out of the window.Neediness, clinging, jealousy, rage, avoidance, emotional dishonesty , witholding love,codependence raise their ugly head.Negative emotions buried deep within raise their ugly head. We relapse into ol...

Acknowledge that you are worthy and wonderful Assert yourself without worrying about backlash Shed insecurity instilled inadvertently by parents Know your values and worth-do not bend backwards compromising on them Be willing to let go of situations and people which don’t serve you Identify and embody your purpose Take care of your physical and emotional health.A healthy body and mind radiates confidence. Choose your inner circle carefully.Strong, goal -oriented people make good inspiration. Stick to your boundaries .You command respect and exude confidence when you do that Do not be afraid of growth oriented changes, they boost your confidence

There was an era when those suffering from plague were considered lethal and shunned at all costs.In today’s world, the plague has been replaced by mental health.Those with anxiety, depression,bipolar/suicidal thoughts or more serious forms of mental illness and disorders like narcissistic personality disorder and schizophrenia are treated as   though they are terrorists with a bio-gene out to destroy our planet by supposedly healthy people.They are unable to form friendships,have a good social life and end up living cloistered lives from the fear of being found out.Loneliness, shame and depression become their unwanted companions. Here is how those with mental health issues can destroy the stigma around it: ·                 Understand that suffering from a mental health issue is not a bad thing (it’s not something to be guilty of like maybe killing someone)           ...

A wrong email Money deposited in wrong account A lost client due to negligence A loss incurred to the company A wrongly prepared excel sheet Typos on a presentation The above are some of the common mistakes made at workplace.Such mistakes result in being shamed and yelled at by the boss.Team mates lose faith in you.You feel horrible.You feel like taking the next day off or hiding forever. The best way to bounce back after mistake is a)Reflect on its causes b)Take corrective action c)Apologize to those involved d) Exhibit consistent and trustworthy behavior in next days, it reduces the blow of previous mistakes e)Build skills in resilience f)Practice compassion and empathy for self because you are worthy despite the mistake 

I am beautiful I am worthy I deserve to find love I am wonderful I deserve prosperity I deserve financial success The above are positive affirmations.Saying these to ourselves is supposed to better our lives,bring about prosperity ,abundance and love .However, a lot of times people repeat these to themselves and despite that they feel flawed and horrible from within.Instead of manifesting and harvesting prosperity and abundance, they attract lack and negativity. They ask themselves why? The answer is that affirmations don’t , in themselves, work unless our core truly believes we are worthy.If we were to give an angry and grouchy child sweets and toys to play with to appease it but never give it any love, the child would feel neglected and unloved.Even if somebody came along and tries to hug or comfort such a child,   the child would be wary of their love and intentions and pull away from because love feels unfamiliar. However, if we spent time comfortin...

Consider the following example about a spiritual healer cum kundalini yoga teacher who has started her full time business of training people in yoga recently.In a week she got two new enrollments .To get new enrollments, she invites friends ,family and acquaintances to a free session followed by coffee and cookies from her. At the end of the session , the crowd thanks her and then begins to   disperse.Neither her friends nor new prospects say much about whether they liked the session.She then goes upto one of her friends and asks her how she liked the session to which her friend responds that it was nice but doesn’t appreciate her beyond that. She goes home and thinks about why it is that she is feeling horrible now despite having met so many people over a nice coffee evening. She then realizes that, couched in her need for appreciation , there was a need to win approval from others.Due to this need,others felt “pulled at” and distanced themselves from her instead of...

Gymming Eating right Getting enough sleep Investing in self- improvement Meeting new people Trying new activities Reading Traveling Spending time with friends Spending an evening with spouse/partner The above mentioned activities are supposed to be good activities and should fill us with happiness.However, we notice that even though we do these activities we do not feel happy from within. We then question what it is that is missing-why is it that these activities are not making us feel fulfilled and why does the inner emptiness still exist.Why is it that despite having good friends and a partner we are feeling unloved? The answer to these questions is that we feel empty and unfulfilled despite participating in multiple activities and having the love of friends and partner because we have been abandoning ourselves. What is self- abandonment? Self -abandonment is not taking adequate care of the emotional needs of core self.This leads ...

Excessive drinking Porn addiction Sex addiction Over-eating Excessive exercising Workaholism/over achievement  till the point of dropping with exhaustion The above are some of the examples of overdoing some of the activities that people do.Everyone overeats or excessively works sometimes but constantly engaging in these excesses is detrimental to the body.It results in overweight,no time for self and breaking down from exhaustion.Furthermore, if a person has a porn or sex addiction it can lead to the demise of relationship with partner and also lead to fear or inability to feel intimacy. It is hence necessary to check and see where these excesses stem from , what our body and subconscious is trying to tell us via them and what we can do to heal. Let us divide the excesses into two categories 1.Addictions-Food and alcohol,porn, sex 2.Subtle "addictions" -Workaholism, over exercise Before we proceed a notch higher, we must understand that all our actions, ...

In many challenges – personal and professional – we are held back by the crippling thought that people like us could not not possibly triumph given what we know of ourselves: how reliably stupid, anxious, gauche, crude, vulgar and dull we really are. We leave the possibility of success to others, because we don’t seem to ourselves to be anything like the sort of people we see lauded around us. Faced with responsibility or prestige, we quickly become convinced that we are simply impostors, like an actor in the role of a pilot, wearing the uniform and making sunny cabin announcements while incapable of even starting the engines. It can feel easier simply not to try. The root cause of the impostor syndrome is a hugely unhelpful picture of what other people are really like. We feel like impostors not because we are uniquely flawed, but because we fail to imagine how deeply flawed everyone else must necessarily also be beneath a more or less polished surface. The impostor syndrome has...

6 am alarm.Snooze 15 minute intervals.Waking up with a bang.Subway to office.Mayo sandwich breakfast and sweet coffee.Conference calls.Asshole boss barking orders.Client demands.Project after project.Chinese takeout diner while at work.6 more cups of sweetened cappuccino . Belly fat and sleep deprivation.Exhaustion.Burnout. Screw my paycheck and upcoming promotion; I just want to sleep for 48 hours flat.Questioning the meaning of existence. This is the typical cycle of events any busy executive in a large city experiences.They contemplate leaving their job and going to a monastery for a few months seeking peace but then the paycheck lures them back.Also, they are addicted to the grind even if they don’t admit to it. Back to work and the burnout continues. What then is the way out? For someone who has to go back to work there is no way out other than to strike a balance between time for self and work no matter how horrible the hours or demands at work are.Time f...

What is stress It is the body’s emotional and physical response to the increase of external or internal imbalancing loads which are usually caused by extreme work demands Causes of stress Asshole boss Work unequally divided between colleagues Too much work, too small a team Artificial sense of urgency to deliver Strict deadlines Multiple projects Effects of stress Weight gain or loss Lack of sleep or over sleeping Too much caffeine,alcohol intake Release of cortisol and other stress hormones Inability to concentrate Irritability Break of friendships Inability to breathe well How to reduce stress Eat a balanced diet Exercise 3-4 times a week Cut out caffeine Meditate Read self-help books Take a short trip or hobby class Make your health a priority Develop boundaries at work Focus on hobbies and sleep