TransformYourLife

Everyone is extremely motivated as the new year begins .There is a long list of things one will be doing -writing that book , starting that business, losing 5 pounds, starting to work out and so on.Usually, a week into January, it starts to reduce.One begins to procrastinate, feel lazy, evade or distract with addictions. By the end of february the last bits of motivation are gone.One is back to where one started. How then does one continue to stay motivated? 1.By surrounding yourself by equally driven people 2.By cutting negative and toxic people out of your life 3.By training your brain to think of new tasks as pleasure because the brain is wired to chase pleasure 4.By creating positive images of tasks and telling your brain you're pumped to do it 5.By staying away from addictions and false stories you tell yourself which lead to procrastination By practicing these regularly you will heal

Everyone dreams of being mentored by the likes of Steve Jobs or Elon Musk.Some of us want to be coached by the likes of Marshal Goldman but can't afford him.So ,its pretty clear that we need external inputs and kicks on the butt when we grow complacent and there is no better person to do it than a mentor. Despite this knowledge,one fears reaching out to prospective mentors feeling that they are too powerful/busy and wont entertain someone as small as me.The void of not being mentored remains though. Some of the ways of reversing this and actually landing yourself a mentor are: a)Reaching out fearlessly on linkedin or other legit social media b)Clearly state your purpose when you write to them and tell them what you admire in them/would like to emulate or how they can help you improve c)Be humble-let them know xyz are areas which you think need work and how grateful you would be if they helped you on them d) Be willing to volunteer-If your prospective mentor runs a...

I am beautiful I am worthy I deserve to find love I am wonderful I deserve prosperity I deserve financial success The above are positive affirmations.Saying these to ourselves is supposed to better our lives,bring about prosperity ,abundance and love .However, a lot of times people repeat these to themselves and despite that they feel flawed and horrible from within.Instead of manifesting and harvesting prosperity and abundance, they attract lack and negativity. They ask themselves why? The answer is that affirmations don’t , in themselves, work unless our core truly believes we are worthy.If we were to give an angry and grouchy child sweets and toys to play with to appease it but never give it any love, the child would feel neglected and unloved.Even if somebody came along and tries to hug or comfort such a child,   the child would be wary of their love and intentions and pull away from because love feels unfamiliar. However, if we spent time comfortin...

In many challenges – personal and professional – we are held back by the crippling thought that people like us could not not possibly triumph given what we know of ourselves: how reliably stupid, anxious, gauche, crude, vulgar and dull we really are. We leave the possibility of success to others, because we don’t seem to ourselves to be anything like the sort of people we see lauded around us. Faced with responsibility or prestige, we quickly become convinced that we are simply impostors, like an actor in the role of a pilot, wearing the uniform and making sunny cabin announcements while incapable of even starting the engines. It can feel easier simply not to try. The root cause of the impostor syndrome is a hugely unhelpful picture of what other people are really like. We feel like impostors not because we are uniquely flawed, but because we fail to imagine how deeply flawed everyone else must necessarily also be beneath a more or less polished surface. The impostor syndrome has...

Imagine a typical Monday morning.Ned’s mobile phone alarm goes off at 7 am.He snoozes it   in 15 minute increments till 8 am and then rushes to the bathroom with a start.He can’t find clean clothes to put on and just wears the shirt from Friday on which he had spilled wine and douses it with loads of deo to mask the smell. His head hurts from last night’s beer overdose   and he crave latte immediately.There is no milk in the house though and he makes do with black coffee for now.He opens the fridge scrounging for something to eat and realizes that it is empty.He rushes to office without breakfast and then plans to order a bagel once he reaches there. He is late for the 9 am meeting and can’t find his notes for it on his cluttered office desk.He makes a dash into the meeting room but is unable to understand what the pie chart on the projector is for.His eyes are bloodshot and he craves sleep. After the bagel his boss asks for an update on last weeks projects and ...

Loneliness: You sleep all day and stay up all night You spend most of the time alone You avoid the company of people You have no actual,reliable friends Accountability and commitment: You avoid taking responsibility for your actions You have emotional pain from the past that you’ve not fixed You use numbing tactics like alcohol, drugs and porn to deflect the past pain You do not like to make commitments to yourself or others because they require follow through You do not like accountability You avoid those who challenge you or insist you change for better You get triggered and howl if your comfort zone changes even slightly You have difficulty following through You do not like your life or schedule getting disrupted and at the same time wonder why you’ve stayed stuck and small You make grand plans for work in your mind but your follow through is inconsistent and less than 5%    Commitment to self : You only eat two...