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They are full of self loathing They are pensive They project their negativity onto everyone They are energy vampires They have low self-esteem and bring yours down as well They are fear-based and have reservations with new things Their tendency to envision failure becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy They tend to thwart efforts of positive people They live limited lives They try to suck others into their own dramas

Trauma bonding Depression Remembering the illusion of who they presented themselves as Being falsely in love with an idealized version of them Seeking attention in loneliness Familiarity to abusive parent Addiction to abuse since childhood Low self esteem No sense of self Lack of boundaries

  Characteristics of   trauma bonded relationships: A constant pattern of non-performance — your partner promises you things, but keeps behaving to the contrary. Others are disturbed by something that is said or done to you in your relationship, but you brush it off. You feel stuck in the relationship because you see no way out. You keep having the same fights with your partner that go round in circles with no real winner. You're punished or given the silent treatment by your partner when you say or do something "wrong." You feel unable to detach from your relationship even though you don't truly trust or even like the person you're in it with. When you try and leave, you are plagued by such longing to get back with your partner you feel it might destroy you        Key reasons for staying in trauma bonded relationships: Addictive quality It's a bit like becoming addicted to a drug. A psychologically abusive relationship is a rol...

There are people who stay in abusive one sided relationships.They give, accommodate, bend backwards till the point they are depleted.They stay around partners who constantly fight, nitpick,marginalize , are insecure and bring out the worst in them.They continue to give themselves up from the fear of being alone. They are deeply dissatisfied and often feel like they’re walking on eggs shells in such relationships.Despite this they do not leave and continue to tolerate the abuse being doled out. They have been shamed into believing they are worthless due to childhood abandonment and neglect.Hence they over give themselves-their time, money, love, attention to non- deserving partners to obtain crumbs of connection and love. They do not speak up for what they want and don’t want and never state their needs fearing that they will offend the partner and lose them. Healing entails healing toxic shame, developing boundaries, elevating esteem and putting self first.