TransformYourLife

 We have oftentimes seen that there are people who are afraid of taking any kind of risk in their lives.They stay at low paying jobs which don't fulfill them, stay in abusive relationships and never start their own initiatives/businesses even if they have the requisite skills. They hold onto security and trade it for new experiences.They live in fear of losing what they have if they chase what they can have.They also have abundance blocks at times and feel unworthy of bigger and better things. They live mired in fear and see life pass by them. The fear stems from previous losses and hardships in life. The way out is to acknowledge the past but not be a slave to it.

The following are main characteristics of good therapy and differentiate it from substandard one a)Good therapy is not friendship The therapist is supposed to be a person to understand you and where you’re coming from , spot your issues and suggest methods to change also hand holding while you change.They are supposed to point out when you’re backsliding and be direct with you.You are not supposed to get   so comfortable around a therapist the way you would around a friend that you stop taking them seriously. b)A good therapist does not over-promise or judge Many therapists claim to overhaul your entire life in a week and silently judge the client for any inherent foibles.Good therapists base micro-goals for clients on their current situation and create a safe space for them to open up without any judgement c) Good therapy models accurate timely feedback and   change is progressive There are people who spend years in therapy without making progress w...

Success is likened to a big Ferrari and a house in the Bahamas overlooking the sea for the rich and elite.It is that new closed deal after which one manufacturing company will acquire the assets of another .It is that admit into Stanford or Yale.It is that private equity job someone landed at KKR.It is those new Cartier watches and that ride on the Lambourghini. It is two square meals in sub-saharan Africa.It is a pitcher of clean drinking water.It is admit to a school in war torn Syria.It is a night of peace without any bomb going off during war. It is that successful zazen you conducted with the team at the dhamma centre.It is mindfulness and peace.It is yoga and green tea without any stress.It is that trip to the Himalayas wherein you don’t have cell phone network and hence loads of tranquility. Success means different things to different people depending upon where they’re at in life. Determine what it means for you and then chase it relentlessly. There is ...

Imagine a typical Monday morning.Ned’s mobile phone alarm goes off at 7 am.He snoozes it   in 15 minute increments till 8 am and then rushes to the bathroom with a start.He can’t find clean clothes to put on and just wears the shirt from Friday on which he had spilled wine and douses it with loads of deo to mask the smell. His head hurts from last night’s beer overdose   and he crave latte immediately.There is no milk in the house though and he makes do with black coffee for now.He opens the fridge scrounging for something to eat and realizes that it is empty.He rushes to office without breakfast and then plans to order a bagel once he reaches there. He is late for the 9 am meeting and can’t find his notes for it on his cluttered office desk.He makes a dash into the meeting room but is unable to understand what the pie chart on the projector is for.His eyes are bloodshot and he craves sleep. After the bagel his boss asks for an update on last weeks projects and ...

I have a friend who realized 1 year into a software engineering job that he was not cut out for a corporate job.He was creative, thought out of the box and did not like the rigid confines of 9-5.He had his own ideas about starting a business of his own and of running it in his own way. He found 2 more partners and they started a business after he left his corporate job holding equal stakes in the company. The company was an interface between travel agents and local hotels for a particular geography and revenue was earned charging commissions from both parties.The margins were low but they managed to build enough scale in 3 years to be close to breakeven.However, the business failed going forward with the advent of Airbnb and the likes. My friend and his team was shattered.Their hopes were crushed.They mourned the loss for a few weeks but bounced back soon enough.They had learnt resilience and ability to return to normal state after a downturn during the course of the busin...

There are loads of people who are underpaid on their current job.The reasons for this can be numerous-a small organization, financial downsturn,the company having a bad year, downsizing of teams and so on.People think changing jobs is the way to beat this-that I’ll get a raise on my next job, but typically the raise is not enough to get you upto market rate.Despite multiple job changes, you are still underpaid .You feel worthless and your self -esteem takes a hit.You don’t even want to try for a new job anymore. How does one fix this: 1. Know your worth -Know what a person of your experience,qualification is being paid in your geography.Use market salary surveys and websites like glassdoor and payscale.Establish a range of salaries for your said role.Also, don’t let them use your current salary as a basis to pay you less than market rate. 2. Never state a number -On a job interview, when asked how much you would want to be paid, always state a range based upon your researc...

It is every middle-class indian's dream to have their own flat.They usually end up investing their life savings in it or take debt for it.Before investing in a house and putting your life savings into it, do refer the following check-list which will help make an informed decision about what kind of builders to choose/avoid and indemnify against risk of being duped. Reputation of builder Past court cases against builders Is the builder RERA certified Past projects and track record of completion Whether OC was provided to previous buyers Whether flats are being sold in the project or there is piling unsold inventory over years Whether any other projects are ongoing in same vicinity by the builder.If yes, there is likelihood of your money being used for this project as against the one you booked your flat in and completion might get delayed. What is the stage of the project-Makes sense to book those close to completion because it is less risky for customer and builde...