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Good therapy checklist


The following are main characteristics of good therapy and differentiate it from substandard one

a)Good therapy is not friendship

The therapist is supposed to be a person to understand you and where you’re coming from , spot your issues and suggest methods to change also hand holding while you change.They are supposed to point out when you’re backsliding and be direct with you.You are not supposed to get  so comfortable around a therapist the way you would around a friend that you stop taking them seriously.

b)A good therapist does not over-promise or judge

Many therapists claim to overhaul your entire life in a week and silently judge the client for any inherent foibles.Good therapists base micro-goals for clients on their current situation and create a safe space for them to open up without any judgement

c) Good therapy models accurate timely feedback and  change is progressive

There are people who spend years in therapy without making progress while there are those who are provided feedback and see rapid shifts in old patterns and even stubborn behaviors.

d)Good vibes and rapport

Communication flows effectively between client and therapist, there is a safe place created for sharing and being vulnerable and the client feels comfortable.

e)Focus on independence  

If your admiration for the therapist rises in tandem with your self-doubt, then you’re probably not in good therapy. A good sign of therapy at the brink of failure, or of therapy that’s not legitimate, is when your dependence on the therapist increases over time. Therapy is not about handing out solutions to problems; it’s about teaching the client to problem solve.

f)Requires learning, facilitates action

Good therapy engages clients on multiple levels. It involves clients’ emotions, cognition, and behavior. Often, the effort in therapy will focus first on emphatic understanding of the client, establishing alliance and becoming aware of the client’s inner architecture, life circumstances, and personal narrative. Then, good therapy will also facilitate learning—new insights, new ways of thinking, of communicating with others, and managing emotion

g)Makes client work

Provides guidance ,motivation and direction but gets the client to put in the work.


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