TransformYourLife

Capitalism has taught us to base our self worth on what we possess.Our possessions can range from wealth, property, car to partners and jobs.Having these lends us security, social standing and self-worth .Many people spend all their time acquiring these possessions. Further, many people base their sense of worth, potency and self-worth on how much they earn or what possessions they have.Natural calamities , pandemics and other unforseen incidents often cause one to lose their job and possessions. Downturns like a recession, loss in business, end of a relationship result in loss of these posessions.Attachment to these creates severe despair and one believes what one is "horrible " and "deserves nothing good" when these losses happen.Also, these people do not have a solid, well-developed sense of self and hence question their worth when such a loss occurs.They spend all their energy in trying to tide over the loss by acquiring newer possessions, often at the cos...

Acknowledge that you are worthy and wonderful Assert yourself without worrying about backlash Shed insecurity instilled inadvertently by parents Know your values and worth-do not bend backwards compromising on them Be willing to let go of situations and people which don’t serve you Identify and embody your purpose Take care of your physical and emotional health.A healthy body and mind radiates confidence. Choose your inner circle carefully.Strong, goal -oriented people make good inspiration. Stick to your boundaries .You command respect and exude confidence when you do that Do not be afraid of growth oriented changes, they boost your confidence

There are times when one is destructively criticized and it feels like having a burning missile thrown in the face.It dissuades one at times, throws one out of balance.At other times the nasty words wound the psyche and a person feels anxious and sad. Destructive criticism is not something one can evade or avoid-it is going to come our way no matter what.The only way is to learn and understand how to deal with it . Below are powerful methods to deal with it. 1.Thanks for sharing When someone criticizes you, there is a tendency to either: a) argue back; or b)   keep quiet and hold back anger but at the same time, letting the words poison your mind. You should thank the person for letting you know. By doing this, you’re giving out the message you’re not going to let the rejection in. 2.Could you please repeat that? If the person continues to criticize you , ask him to repeat what he said. A person would usually back down at this point because he is...

Backlash after a presentation Negative comments from clients Being passed for a raise due to non-performance Failure at a project resulting in criticism The above are some of the forms of negative feedback.Negative feedback comes to us during all stages of life , even if we do not seek it.For the thin skinned, it results in feeling distraught and even a mild depression.For some others, it results in emotional shut down as a defense while few are incredibly angry at being told they suck at a particular thing. Negative feedback results in the above -mentioned defenses because it puts us in touch with our disowned parts and makes us feel toxic shame that we so vehemently are avoiding. The successful, however, take negative feedback in their stride and use it as a pointing tool towards self -improvement . Some of the ways to take negative feedback in our stride and grow from it are: a               Evaluate the sourc...

Anxiety before big presentation Sweaty palms before meeting stakeholders Stammering in front of client even though you know the solutions Feeling afraid about new responsibilities at work   Feeling like running away from work now that a boss who used to protect you has quit The above are common things which happen in the workplace,especially for employees who have less than 10 years of work experience.They feel non-confident in their abilities or suffer from self doubt. The following are powerful methods to feel more confident at work: a)Know you're enough: During childhood and earlier in life there are experiences one has which make one feel one is not good enough/is shamed into believing one is not good enough.Know that you in yourself are enough.This helps silence the inner critic. b)Practice self compassion When you're learning new skills or at a new job, realize that becoming fully proficient at it will take some time .Be ki...