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Unwavering self worth

Capitalism has taught us to base our self worth on what we possess.Our possessions can range from wealth, property, car to partners and jobs.Having these lends us security, social standing and self-worth .Many people spend all their time acquiring these possessions.


Further, many people base their sense of worth, potency and self-worth on how much they earn or what possessions they have.Natural calamities , pandemics and other unforseen incidents often cause one to lose their job and possessions.

Downturns like a recession, loss in business, end of a relationship result in loss of these posessions.Attachment to these creates severe despair and one believes what one is "horrible " and "deserves nothing good" when these losses happen.Also, these people do not have a solid, well-developed sense of self and hence question their worth when such a loss occurs.They spend all their energy in trying to tide over the loss by acquiring newer possessions, often at the cost of their own mental well-being.They also feel hopeless, curse their luck and spiral into a depression when this happens.

The only way out is decoupling self worth from possessions .

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