TransformYourLife

Consider the following example about a spiritual healer cum kundalini yoga teacher who has started her full time business of training people in yoga recently.In a week she got two new enrollments .To get new enrollments, she invites friends ,family and acquaintances to a free session followed by coffee and cookies from her. At the end of the session , the crowd thanks her and then begins to   disperse.Neither her friends nor new prospects say much about whether they liked the session.She then goes upto one of her friends and asks her how she liked the session to which her friend responds that it was nice but doesn’t appreciate her beyond that. She goes home and thinks about why it is that she is feeling horrible now despite having met so many people over a nice coffee evening. She then realizes that, couched in her need for appreciation , there was a need to win approval from others.Due to this need,others felt “pulled at” and distanced themselves from her instead of...

Excessive drinking Porn addiction Sex addiction Over-eating Excessive exercising Workaholism/over achievement  till the point of dropping with exhaustion The above are some of the examples of overdoing some of the activities that people do.Everyone overeats or excessively works sometimes but constantly engaging in these excesses is detrimental to the body.It results in overweight,no time for self and breaking down from exhaustion.Furthermore, if a person has a porn or sex addiction it can lead to the demise of relationship with partner and also lead to fear or inability to feel intimacy. It is hence necessary to check and see where these excesses stem from , what our body and subconscious is trying to tell us via them and what we can do to heal. Let us divide the excesses into two categories 1.Addictions-Food and alcohol,porn, sex 2.Subtle "addictions" -Workaholism, over exercise Before we proceed a notch higher, we must understand that all our actions, ...

Fear of engulfment is the fear of getting controlled by partner or losing yourself in the relationship.It is a very strong fear of being swallowed by the partner and makes one run for the hills.The individual with this fear hence completely avoids relationships sometimes or is unable to sustain them and runs each time things begin to heat up. This fear is actually a fear of rejection .Due to this fear the individual gives too much in the early phases of the relationship so that they can please their partner and to ensure their partner likes them.They take responsibility for their partners feelings and want to make sure the partner stays happy and does not reject them.But this too much giving from the fear of rejection makes them feel trapped. The solution to this is to develop stronger boundaries, not take rejection personally and religiously practice inner bonding to develop a very strong sense of adult self. Let us see examples in of a person named Raymond who is 44 ...