There are
times when one is destructively criticized and it feels like having a burning
missile thrown in the face.It dissuades one at times, throws one out of balance.At
other times the nasty words wound the psyche and a person feels anxious and
sad.
Destructive
criticism is not something one can evade or avoid-it is going to come our way
no matter what.The only way is to learn and understand how to deal with it .
Below are powerful methods to deal with it.
1.Thanks
for sharing
When
someone criticizes you, there is a tendency to either:
a) argue
back; or
b) keep quiet and hold back anger but at the same
time, letting the words poison your mind.
You should
thank the person for letting you know. By doing this, you’re giving out the
message you’re not going to let the rejection in.
2.Could you
please repeat that?
If the
person continues to criticize you , ask him to repeat what he said.
A person
would usually back down at this point because he is being called out on being
unreasonable and harsh which is scary
He’s more
likely to apologize or ask you to forget what he said.
3.Tell them
they’re projecting
Tell them
that the people who baselessly criticize others are the ones who feel worthless
and do so to falsely elevate themselves and that you will have none of that
4.I choose
not to let it in
When the
criticism is brutal,unwarranted and hurtful, tell the person that you know you
are none of those things they accuse you of being and you choose not to let it
in.This shuts them up.
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