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Self abandonment



  • Gymming
  • Eating right
  • Getting enough sleep
  • Investing in self- improvement
  • Meeting new people
  • Trying new activities
  • Reading
  • Traveling
  • Spending time with friends
  • Spending an evening with spouse/partner

The above mentioned activities are supposed to be good activities and should fill us with happiness.However, we notice that even though we do these activities we do not feel happy from within.

We then question what it is that is missing-why is it that these activities are not making us feel fulfilled and why does the inner emptiness still exist.Why is it that despite having good friends and a partner we are feeling unloved?

The answer to these questions is that we feel empty and unfulfilled despite participating in multiple activities and having the love of friends and partner because we have been abandoning ourselves.

What is self- abandonment?
Self -abandonment is not taking adequate care of the emotional needs of core self.This leads to anxiety,boredom,emptiness,loneliness, fear .

How do we abandon ourselves
  • By staying in our head instead of feeling our feelings
  • By self-judgement
  • By turning to various addictions like sugar,alcohol,TV,over-work to numb the feelings
  • By making others responsible for our feelings and well-being

How do we stop abandoning ourselves
  • By deciding to take care of our emotional needs our self with firm commitment
  • By feeling our feelings instead of running away from them and taking appropriate action which is in our higher good to deal with the feeling
  • By taking ownership of our own happiness and not depending on others to fill our inner emptiness


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