TransformYourLife

Social media platforms like instagram and facebook are an attention seekers paradise.These platforms are replete with lonely people who will engage with anything that shows up in their feed-all they need is to be stimulated.Further, some people have a habit of pressing like or heart button whenever they see a new post .This makes things fantastic for those seeking attention. The attention seeker comes in various forms-the over-sexed model in bikini pictures, the innocent girl pouting on a bad day, the gym rat showing off his muscles, the innocent girl sharing all her food pictures, the nerd getting photographed with the celebrity and so on.Those who seek validation to excessive levels often like their own posts or pictures by themselves as well. The following are the most common traits of attention seekers: Posting multiple times a day Posting provocative stuff  Urging engagement/comments Posting something negative like "I know i look like a dork in this pair of gl...

Capitalism has taught us to base our self worth on what we possess.Our possessions can range from wealth, property, car to partners and jobs.Having these lends us security, social standing and self-worth .Many people spend all their time acquiring these possessions. Further, many people base their sense of worth, potency and self-worth on how much they earn or what possessions they have.Natural calamities , pandemics and other unforseen incidents often cause one to lose their job and possessions. Downturns like a recession, loss in business, end of a relationship result in loss of these posessions.Attachment to these creates severe despair and one believes what one is "horrible " and "deserves nothing good" when these losses happen.Also, these people do not have a solid, well-developed sense of self and hence question their worth when such a loss occurs.They spend all their energy in trying to tide over the loss by acquiring newer possessions, often at the cos...

Life is a flowing river.We believe we are on a boat and are steering it in the river, but the truth is that the river is taking the boat where it wills.Our ego does not permit us to acknowledge this and we resist the flow.He harder the resistance, the greater is the blow to the boat.If we have prolonged resistance, the boat gets damaged and water begins to enter into it. It is hence a good idea to not resist the flow of life.One must accept the situation one is in and then take action to change it if one does not like it.By doing so, one has surrendered to "what is" and is not fighting from a place of resistance anymore.This eases the flow and makes it easier to navigate the path.

Emotional healing is the process of acknowledging our childhood wounds, behavior patters and traumas which prevent us from having healthy relationships and living a whole life.We often set up therapy sessions/read self help books/hire an online coach/attend community help healing sessions and the likes to change our patterns and evoke self love.Further, we journal, spend time with nature, meditate and relax to effect faster change. After a while, the changes start to take place.Within 8-12 months, we have undone our patterns, healed our wounds and start to attract healthier relationships.We feel energized, whole and happier.We believe this change is permanent. However, oftentimes during periods of loneliness, trauma or loss, the old patterns crop up.Self love goes out of the window.Neediness, clinging, jealousy, rage, avoidance, emotional dishonesty , witholding love,codependence raise their ugly head.Negative emotions buried deep within raise their ugly head. We relapse into ol...

The following are top 10 reasons why men stop texting He was in it only for the sex /thrill of chase He was dating someone else alongside and has become exclusive with her He cannot handle commitment in a relationship contrary to his initial pitch He has mixed emotions about the relationship He does not have the balls to break up and hence ghosts He becomes acutely aware of his demons and wants to run He is stressed-loss of job/death in family etc are common stressors He is feeling vulnerable He is ashamed of something he did and is hiding He feels you deserve better 

We often see women who only attract broke, abusive,emotionally battered/unavailable men .These men only offer crumbs in the relationship , are having underlying mental conditions/addictions and yet these women hold onto them and nurture them. The following are the reasons for the same: The woman was raised in an abusive environment and the paradigm of a relationship thus set for her was that riled in abuse The woman's father was emotionally unavailable and distant and she had to vie for his attention .She replicates the same in adult relationships. She has low self esteem and fear of being alone Subsconscious programming attracts her to those who feel familiar vibrationally, namely, the abusive and the unavailable She has a belief that if she rescues these men they will somehow grow to love her

They are full of self loathing They are pensive They project their negativity onto everyone They are energy vampires They have low self-esteem and bring yours down as well They are fear-based and have reservations with new things Their tendency to envision failure becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy They tend to thwart efforts of positive people They live limited lives They try to suck others into their own dramas