Dealing with triggers-advice for recovering codependents

Codependence is oftentimes rooted in the feeling of inadequacy which stems of being shamed due to parental abandonment and neglect during childhood.

Codependents in recovery learn to move past the shame of abandonment into enhanced self love.However, during this period, it is easy to backslide into old patterns of trying to rescue people, giving self up for crumbs of connection,allowing others to trample own boundaries, stalking exes on social media and so on.

The following are some of the ways to deal with the triggers when they push you back into the old behaviors

Practicing mindfulness
Feeling the feelings and identifying them
Repeatedly repeating the “I am enough” mantra
Journaling painful feelings when they arise
Finding yourself a support group like CODA

In addition to the above mentioned tips, one must also practice both physical and emotional self care help a recovering codependent stay sober.

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