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The feminine essence man


A man , by definition, is supposed to be masculine, strong, unemotional , a provider for his mate and family and a also protector.He is never supposed to lose his cool and is always supposed to uphold his integrity.He is supposed to be a leader , a mentor and a guide .He must never get too emotional or display is feelings. He also displays physical strength and has strong boundaries.Unless evolved, he can be vindictive and vengeful as well.This is what the patriarch society has conditioned a good man to be.Such a man is a masculine essence man.

There is a breed of men who were raised by controlling narcissistic women and weak passive codependent fathers.They had their wings clipped off at an early age and were not allowed to grow, develop and individuate .They are sensitive , caring , empathetic and understand a woman’s feelings deeply.They are, however, oftentimes, emotionally disconnected from self and find it hard to be vulnerable.

Such a man needs to be led from the masculine.A woman’s masculine energy invigorates him and gets him to open up.Such a man needs to learn how to assert healthy boundaries, put himself first and not worry too much about taking on additional responsibilities about the feelings of others.
If he integrates these lessons with his empathetic feminine essence he can be an embodiment of sensitivity and strength and lead a happy life.

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