Need for perfection-sign of emotional unavailability

·         A Harvard degree

·         A Benz 

·         A house in the Bahamas and a condo in the city

·         Spiritually conscious

·         A 7 figure salary

·         A warped sense of humor

·         A man who never litters

·         A man who is emotionally fluid

·         A man who appreciates art and literature

·         A man who can cook

·         A man who loves pets

The above were some of the qualities and pre-requisites that a 28 year old uber successful woman had for her ideal mate.She would not get into a relationship with a man unless he met the above criteria.Also, she did not like too much contact with others, hated responsibility or commitment, did not have her own house /pet, never got to know people on a deep level and always wanted things on her terms.

The real deal here is that she is emotionally unavailable due to her childhood wounds, deep mistrust of men .She portrays herself to be picky when it comes to men but the truth is that she is afraid to be intimate and vulnerable.The checklist of qualities her ideal mate should have is just a method to not get too close to anyone even though on the surface she seems to be wanting a relationship.