Marginalizing needs -deeper reasons

There are people who stay in abusive one sided relationships.They give, accommodate, bend backwards till the point they are depleted.They stay around partners who constantly fight, nitpick,marginalize , are insecure and bring out the worst in them.They continue to give themselves up from the fear of being alone.

They are deeply dissatisfied and often feel like they’re walking on eggs shells in such relationships.Despite this they do not leave and continue to tolerate the abuse being doled out.

They have been shamed into believing they are worthless due to childhood abandonment and neglect.Hence they over give themselves-their time, money, love, attention to non- deserving partners to obtain crumbs of connection and love.

They do not speak up for what they want and don’t want and never state their needs fearing that they will offend the partner and lose them.

Healing entails healing toxic shame, developing boundaries, elevating esteem and putting self first.

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