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Dealing with negative feedback


  • Backlash after a presentation
  • Negative comments from clients
  • Being passed for a raise due to non-performance
  • Failure at a project resulting in criticism


The above are some of the forms of negative feedback.Negative feedback comes to us during all stages of life , even if we do not seek it.For the thin skinned, it results in feeling distraught and even a mild depression.For some others, it results in emotional shut down as a defense while few are incredibly angry at being told they suck at a particular thing.

Negative feedback results in the above -mentioned defenses because it puts us in touch with our disowned parts and makes us feel toxic shame that we so vehemently are avoiding.

The successful, however, take negative feedback in their stride and use it as a pointing tool towards self -improvement .

Some of the ways to take negative feedback in our stride and grow from it are:
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  •       Evaluate the source of feedback-Check if the person giving it has good intentions or is merely giving it to put you down
  •        Reflect-If it is being given with good intentions, reflect and see if what they are saying is true
  •            Drop the ego-The feedback will penetrate your being if the wall of ego is removed .Drop it and let the truth sink in
  •          Take action-Change after feedback happens only when one takes concrete action towards improvement.

Practicing the above will result in improved resilience and growth.

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