TransformYourLife

The first meeting Fleeting glances Smiles and laughter Diner dates Walks on the beach Commitment Moving in together Disagreements Non-matching intimacy requirements Fights Explosive fights Quest for peace Breakup Zen meditation class Temporary peace Same patterns in next relationship(s) This is how relationships typically pan out and thereafter one wonders why each of my relationships followed the same course-same type of partner, same reasons for incompatibility ,same kinds of endings. The answer to this lies in wiring in childhood. In our development phases as children, we observe our immediate caregivers and our parents marriage is the first model for what a marriage looks like. What also matters is the quality of our relationship with opposite sex parent-it models our subsequent interactions with members of the opposite sex. If our opposite sex parent was abusive, we wow to ourselves never to be with someone like that. However, if we look back at our relat...

Gymming Eating right Getting enough sleep Investing in self- improvement Meeting new people Trying new activities Reading Traveling Spending time with friends Spending an evening with spouse/partner The above mentioned activities are supposed to be good activities and should fill us with happiness.However, we notice that even though we do these activities we do not feel happy from within. We then question what it is that is missing-why is it that these activities are not making us feel fulfilled and why does the inner emptiness still exist.Why is it that despite having good friends and a partner we are feeling unloved? The answer to these questions is that we feel empty and unfulfilled despite participating in multiple activities and having the love of friends and partner because we have been abandoning ourselves. What is self- abandonment? Self -abandonment is not taking adequate care of the emotional needs of core self.This leads ...

One of the wonders of the human mind is its ability constantly to improve its bank of knowledge: to update and correct its errors; in other words, to over-write the disc. The many wonders that we embody is the complex behavior and to solve the undesirable questions we get in our hearts by improving the banks of knowledge we have update them correct them in other words we can re evaluate the principle but there is an exception to it and one cognitive field and our chances of happiness and emotional knowledge. It is during the time we are very small children, between our first day and around our eighth year, that the disc is encoded. Periods of self evaluation , questioning of values of trust , whether we like ourselves, whether we can be open, where blame belongs, what to do when the world hurts us, how much we can tell others of what distresses us, what degree of directness can be tolerated; and how much of our naughtiness and excitement can be witnessed and forgiven. Unfort...