Rejection the gossip word for the new millinia showed us the by the likes over Facebook , upvotes over YouTube and love showered over the totally filtered medium oof Instagram and the word hurts itself stings to the bones thanks to Oh, rejection
Today, thanks to electronic communications, social media platforms and dating apps, each of us is connected to thousands of people, any of whom might ignore our posts, chats, texts, or dating profiles, and leave us feeling rejected as a result.
Being told "no," or, "It's not the right time for this," or, "With some more experience, maybe," is something that happens to everyone. Sometimes the answer will be a simple "no." Sometimes the answer will be, "Just not right now." Either way, rejection can sting
. The word alone stings. There is perhaps no greater human fear than being refused, denied and dismissed — especially when we really care about what we have put “out there” — our hearts, our work, our soul into it ! What we often not understand that rejection is temporary it has been evolving with us , we are rather inbibed into this medium of being social
Rejection served a vital function in our evolutionary past. In our hunter/gatherer past, being ostracized from our tribes was akin to a death sentence, as we were unlikely to survive for long alone. Evolutionary psychologists assume the brain developed an early warning system to alert us when we were at risk for ostracism. Because it was so important to get our attention, those who experienced rejection as more painful (i.e., because rejection mimicked physical pain in their brain) gained an evolutionary advantage—they were more likely to correct their behavior and consequently, more likely to remain in the tribe. Which probably also explains why…
Still, rejection is a part of life. There is no way around it. As you get older, you understand that rejection comes all the time and in many forms. How you handle and deal with that rejection is what defines you as a person and can determine if you are ultimately successful.
The fact that rejection is self licking wound we can't let go of the fact that we have been inflicting the wounds on self calling ourselves names and going even deeply into the past that could harm our internal emotional stability In other words, just when our self-esteem is hurting most, we go and damage it even further. Doing so is emotionally unhealthy and psychologically self-destructive yet every single one of us has done it at one time or another.
1. You have miles to go before you sleep..
The road doesn't ends with a no a hundred no's may be too bad at a time but yet a new yes is always there ...there is always something better waiting for you.
2.It’s rarely personal (most rejection is not even real).
The truth is, when we are blown off, the vast majority of the time it is not even about us. The person who rejects us is simply focused on other things. What we perceive to be rejection is often not even actual rejection at all — just not the right timing.
3 It makes you empathetic to others.
Experiencing suffering makes us kinder to others. Next time we need to let someone down, having experienced being let down ourselves, we are much more likely to be gentle. For this reason, as Oprah says, “No experience is wasted.”
4.So what? You are still alive.
The old saying that what does not kill us makes us stronger can be true particularly when pertaining to rejection. When I look back at the “nos,” the lack of responses and the disappointments I have had in my life, I appreciate how much I have overcome. It makes me feel strong and more resilient in the face of more rejection (and in life, more rejection is always guaranteed). “So what?” is one of my favorite questions I ask myself for perspective.
Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was being re-directed to something better." –Dr. Steve Maraboli
Today, thanks to electronic communications, social media platforms and dating apps, each of us is connected to thousands of people, any of whom might ignore our posts, chats, texts, or dating profiles, and leave us feeling rejected as a result.
Being told "no," or, "It's not the right time for this," or, "With some more experience, maybe," is something that happens to everyone. Sometimes the answer will be a simple "no." Sometimes the answer will be, "Just not right now." Either way, rejection can sting
. The word alone stings. There is perhaps no greater human fear than being refused, denied and dismissed — especially when we really care about what we have put “out there” — our hearts, our work, our soul into it ! What we often not understand that rejection is temporary it has been evolving with us , we are rather inbibed into this medium of being social
Rejection served a vital function in our evolutionary past. In our hunter/gatherer past, being ostracized from our tribes was akin to a death sentence, as we were unlikely to survive for long alone. Evolutionary psychologists assume the brain developed an early warning system to alert us when we were at risk for ostracism. Because it was so important to get our attention, those who experienced rejection as more painful (i.e., because rejection mimicked physical pain in their brain) gained an evolutionary advantage—they were more likely to correct their behavior and consequently, more likely to remain in the tribe. Which probably also explains why…
Still, rejection is a part of life. There is no way around it. As you get older, you understand that rejection comes all the time and in many forms. How you handle and deal with that rejection is what defines you as a person and can determine if you are ultimately successful.
The fact that rejection is self licking wound we can't let go of the fact that we have been inflicting the wounds on self calling ourselves names and going even deeply into the past that could harm our internal emotional stability In other words, just when our self-esteem is hurting most, we go and damage it even further. Doing so is emotionally unhealthy and psychologically self-destructive yet every single one of us has done it at one time or another.
1. You have miles to go before you sleep..
The road doesn't ends with a no a hundred no's may be too bad at a time but yet a new yes is always there ...there is always something better waiting for you.
2.It’s rarely personal (most rejection is not even real).
The truth is, when we are blown off, the vast majority of the time it is not even about us. The person who rejects us is simply focused on other things. What we perceive to be rejection is often not even actual rejection at all — just not the right timing.
3 It makes you empathetic to others.
Experiencing suffering makes us kinder to others. Next time we need to let someone down, having experienced being let down ourselves, we are much more likely to be gentle. For this reason, as Oprah says, “No experience is wasted.”
4.So what? You are still alive.
The old saying that what does not kill us makes us stronger can be true particularly when pertaining to rejection. When I look back at the “nos,” the lack of responses and the disappointments I have had in my life, I appreciate how much I have overcome. It makes me feel strong and more resilient in the face of more rejection (and in life, more rejection is always guaranteed). “So what?” is one of my favorite questions I ask myself for perspective.
Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was being re-directed to something better." –Dr. Steve Maraboli
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