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Negative thoughts and how to overcome


“Our mind is like a garden.If we plant good seeds flowers will grow .If left unattended, it will be weeds and bugs”.

Negative thoughts

You are not good enough.You are ugly.Nobody likes you.You will certainly fail, why try.You are not worthy enough to be friends with good people.You are too thin.You are a menace and a shame to your family.You are a loser.


These are some of the negative thoughts that come to mind when one is about to meet new people or start something new.The origin of this voice of negativity lies not in your past failures but in your fears -fear to own situations, fear to get hurt, fear to fail, fear to grow.This is because you are too comfortably stuck in known zones of utter comfort.

How negative thoughts affect us
  • We stay stuck
  • We stay small
  • We do not take action
  • We do not love ourselves
  • We hide and run from positive change
  • We end up having distorted self image
  • We take easy way out
  • We avoid things,situations and people who challenge us
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How to overcome
  • Decide to change
  • Grow your self worth
  • Own your fears
  • Start the process in small steps daily


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