Mindsets demystified

Our mindsets are like open roads.Our thoughts can be a speeding red shiny car or a bulldozer.Depending upon our mindset we take directions in life.

There are two major kinds of mindsets

Mindset of pessimism/lack-Negative|Cynical|Blaming|Complaining|Escapist|Jealous|Self-depreciating|Narcissistic |Ambiguous|Lazy|Addicted to compulsive behaviors|Not ready to change|Self-important|Lacks empathy|No clear goals

Mindset of abundance-Positive|Happy|Growth oriented|confident|transformative|ambitious|hustling|always pumped|handles conflict well|accepts critical feedback.

How you can change from pessimistic to positive mindset
Understand that for most part of your life you have been carrying your parents mindset
You have also been influenced by negative people around you.
Dislodge their beliefs from your mind
Make a list of good things you truly want in life and think what kind of mindset you would need to achieve them
Believe you can achieve them and build a game plan to it
The mindset will automatically change

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How to overcome fear of engulfment in relationships

Fear of engulfment is the fear of getting controlled by partner or losing yourself in the relationship.It is a very strong fear of being swallowed by the partner and makes one run for the hills.The individual with this fear hence completely avoids relationships sometimes or is unable to sustain them and runs each time things begin to heat up. This fear is actually a fear of rejection .Due to this fear the individual gives too much in the early phases of the relationship so that they can please their partner and to ensure their partner likes them.They take responsibility for their partners feelings and want to make sure the partner stays happy and does not reject them.But this too much giving from the fear of rejection makes them feel trapped. The solution to this is to develop stronger boundaries, not take rejection personally and religiously practice inner bonding to develop a very strong sense of adult self. Let us see examples in of a person named Raymond who is 44

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