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Dealing with triggers-advice for recovering codependents


Codependence is oftentimes rooted in the feeling of inadequacy which stems of being shamed due to parental abandonment and neglect during childhood.

Codependents in recovery learn to move past the shame of abandonment into enhanced self love.However, during this period, it is easy to backslide into old patterns of trying to rescue people, giving self up for crumbs of connection,allowing others to trample own boundaries, stalking exes on social media and so on.

The following are some of the ways to deal with the triggers when they push you back into the old behaviors

  • Practicing mindfulness
  • Feeling the feelings and identifying them
  • Repeatedly repeating the “I am enough” mantra
  • Journaling painful feelings when they arise
  • Finding yourself a support group like CODA



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In addition to the above mentioned tips, one must also practice both physical and emotional self care help a recovering codependent stay sober.

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