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Smashing insecurity and self doubt


  • Comparing oneself to others
  • Feeling threatened by the competence of others
  • Gossiping about others
  • Judgement of others to elevate self


The above are some of the behaviors that insecure people indulge in repeatedly.They feel anxious, nervous and inadequate about themselves for most part.Many have tried stopping these behaviors but have been unable to do so.

One needs to understand that insecure parents have indulged in the very same behaviors around you since childhood and you emulated them.They had no sense of worth, lived through your achievements and expected you to look and dress a particular way so that they are (falsely) uplifted by the praise coming their way via you.

You have also been made to believe that you are your achievements/behavior by your parents which is where the comparisons and obsessive need to achieve stems from.Further, being compared with other children and being shamed for inadequacies you have has led to deep rooted self doubt.

Healing insecurity entails the following:
1.Understanding that insecurity is learned behavior
2.Understanding that your parents worthlessness is inherent and can’t be reversed via your achievements
3.Understanding that you have inherent worth regardless of your achievements
4.Understanding that self doubt is a false construct ;you’re enough
5.Stopping comparison-you’re unique and precious and must chart your own course
6.Muffling the critical opinion of others -you live for yourself and are not what they perceive you to be


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