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Perfectionism couches the vermin


Take a typical scenario of a day in early January.You have written your new year goals.You have declared them to everyone around you.You have been pumped about starting that jog with your fitbit and penning down your first NYT bestseller on spiritual awakening.Not to mention eating 40 grams of greens daily.So many goals and bubbling enthusiasm!!

Now fast forward to 26th January .Its time to sit and start writing that paperback.There were ideas brimming in your mind through the Christmas party and its time to translate them into a book now.You pull out your laptop.You then tell yourself you will start after a cup of coffee and go to the kitchen.Your mind shifts from the target as you heat water for coffee.The voices in your head start becoming louder.They start telling you that you’re not a writer,how will you even manage to write.You’re not good enough, nobody will read you.No publishers will bother with you.What if mom and aunt Jane don’t like the book and criticize for it?What if Melanie who runs a life coaching business tells you that you suck?What if……

The voices(in many ways) are telling you that you needn’t attempt something new because you’re not perfect.This is not the voice of perfection but the dual voice of inability to put in the hard work and the voice of fear of failure.

The only way to silence it is to go ahead and do the task-write that darn book in that case.Self publish on Amazon and knoob if Harper Collins turns you down.Stop giving a damn about what aunt Jane says-her opinion does not matter.Tell Melanie you write to express, not to sell!You must do what new and fulfilling for you.

Acknowledge the voice of fear couched in perfection and kill it by doing the task.

Rinse repeat till it the creature is silenced for good!!!

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