TransformYourLife

There was an era when those suffering from plague were considered lethal and shunned at all costs.In today’s world, the plague has been replaced by mental health.Those with anxiety, depression,bipolar/suicidal thoughts or more serious forms of mental illness and disorders like narcissistic personality disorder and schizophrenia are treated as   though they are terrorists with a bio-gene out to destroy our planet by supposedly healthy people.They are unable to form friendships,have a good social life and end up living cloistered lives from the fear of being found out.Loneliness, shame and depression become their unwanted companions. Here is how those with mental health issues can destroy the stigma around it: ·                 Understand that suffering from a mental health issue is not a bad thing (it’s not something to be guilty of like maybe killing someone)           ...

Cheer up honey Why are you always glum? No matter what I do for you, you’re never happy!Phew! Stop being so darn lazy ! Why are you sleeping all the time? Gosh, you’re so clumsy ! How can your mood swing so much ?You were normal 2 mins back and now you’re in tears! Why are you always snapping at people? Why can’t you just get over it? You’re useless around the house!

Trauma bonding Depression Remembering the illusion of who they presented themselves as Being falsely in love with an idealized version of them Seeking attention in loneliness Familiarity to abusive parent Addiction to abuse since childhood Low self esteem No sense of self Lack of boundaries

         We often see that there are some women who have a series of failed relationships .The relationship ends because the man could not commit or cheated.Each of their relationships ends due to similar reasons. The men she chose were often distant/made intermittent contact, were emotionally unavailable or controlling and abusive-none of which bode well for the success of a relationship . Let us look into the reasons for the same: The woman was raised by an imbecile father who was emotionally distant OR she was raised by an abusive father The woman's father was never truly intimate She learnt never to rely on another man She subconsciously chose men who were only peripherally present but emotionally absent and were not after her heart because they felt familiar due to subconscious programming She suffered from the 'father wound' which is basically a deep wound due to a father who emotionally abandoned her by being distant/abusive/unavailable Thus...

It manifests itself in following ways : Trolling social media Changing display picture daily Immediately viewing everybody’s status update Incessant shopping More than two salon visits per week Over - eating Gossiping Creating drama Blaming boyfriend/partner/husband for not giving attention even though they are attentive Unending restlessness Feeling empty and numb on the inside The above stem from not being self- aware, not   having a sense of purpose or direction in life and looking for something /someone to complete the woman.

Resisting Claiming to be a fighter Claiming not to succumb Butting heads with unchanging situations The above are some of the things one does when in a difficult situation in life.Encouraging literature urges one to fight hard, stay strong and never give up.Despite fighting the situation, it neither improves nor changes. One feels fatigued and mentally exhausted and yet the situation remains as is.One overthinks and tries to mentally find solutions to the problem but is unable to do so.The compounded misery begins to take its toll and results in mild depression, grouchiness and cranky behavior around people. The only way to deal with a difficult situation is to be in acceptance of it.Once the resistance vanishes, energy is focused automatically on improving it .

  Characteristics of   trauma bonded relationships: A constant pattern of non-performance — your partner promises you things, but keeps behaving to the contrary. Others are disturbed by something that is said or done to you in your relationship, but you brush it off. You feel stuck in the relationship because you see no way out. You keep having the same fights with your partner that go round in circles with no real winner. You're punished or given the silent treatment by your partner when you say or do something "wrong." You feel unable to detach from your relationship even though you don't truly trust or even like the person you're in it with. When you try and leave, you are plagued by such longing to get back with your partner you feel it might destroy you        Key reasons for staying in trauma bonded relationships: Addictive quality It's a bit like becoming addicted to a drug. A psychologically abusive relationship is a rol...