TransformYourLife

Shamans Love Light Yoga Kundalini  Yogini Namaste Tattoos Crystals New age  Woman in robes with long hair Releasing chakras Accessing your blocked energies Attracting abundance Living in the present moment The above are some of the things you will see most spiritual teachers and coaches mentioning in their blog, instagram feed and website.They will claim to release all your energy blocks and help you attract love and abundance in your life.All they will expect you to do it pay them obnoxious amounts of money for their mere presence or even a skype/telephonic.They will give you crystals to wear and some pre-recorded meditations and claim that it will overhaul your life There is a second bunch of coaches who will have a fantastic story of an epiphany they had due to which they left their corporate job and wanted to help and serve people and are hence coaching.They will claim that you too can have financial abundance and ...

Anxiety before big presentation Sweaty palms before meeting stakeholders Stammering in front of client even though you know the solutions Feeling afraid about new responsibilities at work   Feeling like running away from work now that a boss who used to protect you has quit The above are common things which happen in the workplace,especially for employees who have less than 10 years of work experience.They feel non-confident in their abilities or suffer from self doubt. The following are powerful methods to feel more confident at work: a)Know you're enough: During childhood and earlier in life there are experiences one has which make one feel one is not good enough/is shamed into believing one is not good enough.Know that you in yourself are enough.This helps silence the inner critic. b)Practice self compassion When you're learning new skills or at a new job, realize that becoming fully proficient at it will take some time .Be ki...

Everyone is extremely motivated as the new year begins .There is a long list of things one will be doing -writing that book , starting that business, losing 5 pounds, starting to work out and so on.Usually, a week into January, it starts to reduce.One begins to procrastinate, feel lazy, evade or distract with addictions. By the end of february the last bits of motivation are gone.One is back to where one started. How then does one continue to stay motivated? 1.By surrounding yourself by equally driven people 2.By cutting negative and toxic people out of your life 3.By training your brain to think of new tasks as pleasure because the brain is wired to chase pleasure 4.By creating positive images of tasks and telling your brain you're pumped to do it 5.By staying away from addictions and false stories you tell yourself which lead to procrastination By practicing these regularly you will heal

Everyone dreams of being mentored by the likes of Steve Jobs or Elon Musk.Some of us want to be coached by the likes of Marshal Goldman but can't afford him.So ,its pretty clear that we need external inputs and kicks on the butt when we grow complacent and there is no better person to do it than a mentor. Despite this knowledge,one fears reaching out to prospective mentors feeling that they are too powerful/busy and wont entertain someone as small as me.The void of not being mentored remains though. Some of the ways of reversing this and actually landing yourself a mentor are: a)Reaching out fearlessly on linkedin or other legit social media b)Clearly state your purpose when you write to them and tell them what you admire in them/would like to emulate or how they can help you improve c)Be humble-let them know xyz are areas which you think need work and how grateful you would be if they helped you on them d) Be willing to volunteer-If your prospective mentor runs a...

We often hear that people enter therapy for recovery from addiction or repeating harmful patterns and heal temporarily. After staying clean for 2-3 months they again relapse into old behaviors. The main reason for the relapse is pseudo recovery. What this means is that sometimes in a fit of exasperation people decide that they want to change but the underlying issues are not fully fixed; hence when the inner pain from issues crops up again, the behaviors relapse. In order to have permanent recovery, the following steps will have to be taken a)        Hitting true bottom-There comes a day when a person decides they can’t live this way anymore and will do what it takes to change and then stay recovered. This is called true bottom. b)       Addressing underlying issues-All harmful behaviors stem from unhealed emotional wounds and emotional pain/adaptation from childhood. They must be resolved and fixed . c)   ...

The following are main characteristics of good therapy and differentiate it from substandard one a)Good therapy is not friendship The therapist is supposed to be a person to understand you and where you’re coming from , spot your issues and suggest methods to change also hand holding while you change.They are supposed to point out when you’re backsliding and be direct with you.You are not supposed to get   so comfortable around a therapist the way you would around a friend that you stop taking them seriously. b)A good therapist does not over-promise or judge Many therapists claim to overhaul your entire life in a week and silently judge the client for any inherent foibles.Good therapists base micro-goals for clients on their current situation and create a safe space for them to open up without any judgement c) Good therapy models accurate timely feedback and   change is progressive There are people who spend years in therapy without making progress w...

“What will the neighbors think if they come to know I’m in therapy?” “I am suicidal but how can I go to a shrink?Nobody in m family ever has”. “What if my mother comes to know I am abusing weed if the therapist’s office calls?” “I am not crazy, why should I go a therapist?” “It is so darn costly to go to one.This will sort itself out on its own!” “I am good enough the way I am.So what if I’m addicted to porn and my marriage is falling apart , its not that lethal an addiction.I can stop anytime and don’t need that psychobabble”. These are some of the common reservations /stigmas/false stories one tells self before entering therapy. Therapy is not just for serious mental illness like schizophrenia or bipolar but is very useful in changing deeply ingrained patterns ,healing emotional wounds, understanding origin of trauma and healing it, stopping backsliding and leading an emotionally healthy life. Things therapy can help deal with include childhood emotional abuse,trau...