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A wrong email Money deposited in wrong account A lost client due to negligence A loss incurred to the company A wrongly prepared excel sheet Typos on a presentation The above are some of the common mistakes made at workplace.Such mistakes result in being shamed and yelled at by the boss.Team mates lose faith in you.You feel horrible.You feel like taking the next day off or hiding forever. The best way to bounce back after mistake is a)Reflect on its causes b)Take corrective action c)Apologize to those involved d) Exhibit consistent and trustworthy behavior in next days, it reduces the blow of previous mistakes e)Build skills in resilience f)Practice compassion and empathy for self because you are worthy despite the mistake 

Snide glances Avoiding each other in the elevator Constant disagreements Finding fault in each other's work Not co-operating as team mates Feeling anxious or angry around each other Wishing your co-worker (or you) would leave the job The above are some of the things two people who don't like each other do when they're around each other.In a work environment,one doesn't get to choose the co-workers .Also, at times one might be a new recruit somewhere and cannot get along with existing co-worker(s) or a new team member joins your existing team and you can't seem to tolerate them;they rub you up the wrong way all the time. No matter what you do, no matter how nice you try to be to that person,it just doesn't work and you leave work irritated and exhausted everyday.You're sure its them but it just might be you too;either party can irritate each other. On taking a deeper look one will realize that all that in them that irritates you is all that you d...

Playing video games neglecting chores Eating an entire box of oreo cookies and then hitting the gym 7 days a week Lounging in office and then battling deadlines Losing oneself in daydreaming and missing  a flight The above are some of the common things one does repeatedly and is unable to break the spiral.Repeatedly indulging in such things takes us away from our goal and makes us why we are not able to stop.Despite putting in efforts to stop,we're unable to stop. Let us explore the reasons behind being unable to stop. The main reason for being unable to stop is because our brain is hardwired to chase pleasure and the above things feel good and pleasurable to it.Furthermore, due to doing them repeatedly, our brain thinks of them as familiar by now and is hardwired move towards what feels familiar. The good news though is that our brain is plastic and we can change these patterns by making the familiar unfamilar and the unfamiliar familiar.This would entail taking tiny ...

Finger pointing Calling others names Telling friends I'm better than you because I am not lazy Treating those with less wealth with disdain Telling gym mates they're slobs when they don't match your appetite of lifting Perfectionism and flaunting it Telling others that their life choices suck Asserting superiority by way of belonging to a particular country or religion The above are activities which fall under the ambit of judging others.Many people constantly judge others.They tell their family and friends that they suck.They are constantly negative and critical of everyone around them. Judgement is rooted in toxic shame and self worth.By judging others, one temporarily (falsely) elevates oneself and feels superior to them.By doing so,the inner feeling of worthlessness is temporarily displaced and one feels grandiose and powerful for a short while.After the potency of this fleeting feeling passes away, one is back to feeling worthless and judges some more.So,it...

Shamans Love Light Yoga Kundalini  Yogini Namaste Tattoos Crystals New age  Woman in robes with long hair Releasing chakras Accessing your blocked energies Attracting abundance Living in the present moment The above are some of the things you will see most spiritual teachers and coaches mentioning in their blog, instagram feed and website.They will claim to release all your energy blocks and help you attract love and abundance in your life.All they will expect you to do it pay them obnoxious amounts of money for their mere presence or even a skype/telephonic.They will give you crystals to wear and some pre-recorded meditations and claim that it will overhaul your life There is a second bunch of coaches who will have a fantastic story of an epiphany they had due to which they left their corporate job and wanted to help and serve people and are hence coaching.They will claim that you too can have financial abundance and ...

Anxiety before big presentation Sweaty palms before meeting stakeholders Stammering in front of client even though you know the solutions Feeling afraid about new responsibilities at work   Feeling like running away from work now that a boss who used to protect you has quit The above are common things which happen in the workplace,especially for employees who have less than 10 years of work experience.They feel non-confident in their abilities or suffer from self doubt. The following are powerful methods to feel more confident at work: a)Know you're enough: During childhood and earlier in life there are experiences one has which make one feel one is not good enough/is shamed into believing one is not good enough.Know that you in yourself are enough.This helps silence the inner critic. b)Practice self compassion When you're learning new skills or at a new job, realize that becoming fully proficient at it will take some time .Be ki...

Everyone is extremely motivated as the new year begins .There is a long list of things one will be doing -writing that book , starting that business, losing 5 pounds, starting to work out and so on.Usually, a week into January, it starts to reduce.One begins to procrastinate, feel lazy, evade or distract with addictions. By the end of february the last bits of motivation are gone.One is back to where one started. How then does one continue to stay motivated? 1.By surrounding yourself by equally driven people 2.By cutting negative and toxic people out of your life 3.By training your brain to think of new tasks as pleasure because the brain is wired to chase pleasure 4.By creating positive images of tasks and telling your brain you're pumped to do it 5.By staying away from addictions and false stories you tell yourself which lead to procrastination By practicing these regularly you will heal