TransformYourLife

Our mindsets are like open roads.Our thoughts can be a speeding red shiny car or a bulldozer.Depending upon our mindset we take directions in life. There are two major kinds of mindsets Mindset of pessimism/lack- Negative|Cynical|Blaming|Complaining|Escapist|Jealous|Self-depreciating|Narcissistic |Ambiguous|Lazy|Addicted to compulsive behaviors|Not ready to change|Self-important|Lacks empathy|No clear goals Mindset of abundance -Positive|Happy|Growth oriented|confident|transformative|ambitious|hustling|always pumped|handles conflict well|accepts critical feedback. How you can change from pessimistic to positive mindset Understand that for most part of your life you have been carrying your parents mindset You have also been influenced by negative people around you. Dislodge their beliefs from your mind Make a list of good things you truly want in life and think what kind of mindset you would need to achieve them Believe you can achieve them and build a game plan to it The...

“Our mind is like a garden.If we plant good seeds flowers will grow .If left unattended, it will be weeds and bugs”. Negative thoughts You are not good enough.You are ugly.Nobody likes you.You will certainly fail, why try.You are not worthy enough to be friends with good people.You are too thin.You are a menace and a shame to your family.You are a loser. These are some of the negative thoughts that come to mind when one is about to meet new people or start something new.The origin of this voice of negativity lies not in your past failures but in your fears -fear to own situations, fear to get hurt, fear to fail, fear to grow.This is because you are too comfortably stuck in known zones of utter comfort. How negative thoughts affect us We stay stuck We stay small We do not take action We do not love ourselves We hide and run from positive change We end up having distorted self image We take easy way out We avoid things,situations and people who challenge u...

What is the crossfinger theory The crossfinger theory implies that life is not in our control and that whatever comes our way we must take it and hope for the best always Why it sucks Makes you weak Puts you out of drivers seat You learn to leave things to chance or believe in destiny You stop putting in efforts You become ambivalent You stop goal setting You become mediocre You settle for less than you deserve You live a life of lack What you can do to change it Believe that your life is in your hands Take back the control Have a life purpose and life plan Create detailed plan of life including financial,relationship, material ,spiritual success and chase these relentlessly Break down goals into short, medium and long term goals and start acting on them

I should not desire money Money causes greed and will make me non-empathetic I should not take business risks I should stay out of limelight and not draw attention to myself I should not speak my mind I should never offend anyone even if it means my boundaries being overstepped I should always adjust to circumstances My destiny is such that I will never receive abundance Less wealth and more peace is better than chasing what I desire My destiny is to be a corporate slave

Don’t knock yourself out of the game before you get the bat!” “If you keep doing the same things over and over again you will get the same results”. What are patterns If we do things over and over again in the same fashion, a pattern results.Our minds and bodies grow accustomed to these patterns.Sometimes they get embedded in our subconscious.We also , at times, mindlessly carry on with those patterns for an infinite time. Why are patterns ineffective We do them without thinking There is no metric for measuring effectiveness There is no scope of change We are hard-wired to do them Nothing in terms of betterment comes of it How to break old patterns Acknowledge ineffectiveness Prime yourself for change Realize that life is too short to keep running in circles Envision the growth you want and make a plan to reach there Start being pumped Stick to the plan without paying heed to environment,stress,business cycle changes Surround yourself with peo...

What are standards They are rules of behavior and receiving things from which you will not fall below Examples of having standards Having personal boundaries Not entertaining nonsense Putting yourself and your needs first even though you’re helpful Having goals Setting new targets Pushing yourself to achieve more Teaching people how to treat you Letting go of toxic people Walking away from being treated poorly Envisioning the best for yourself Having many dreams  and constantly following through

“Don’t knock yourself out of the game before you get the bat!” “If you keep doing the same things over and over again you will get the same results”. What are patterns If we do things over and over again in the same fashion, a pattern results.Our minds and bodies grow accustomed to these patterns.Sometimes they get embedded in our subconscious.We also , at times, mindlessly carry on with those patterns for an infinite time. Why are patterns ineffective We do them without thinking There is no metric for measuring effectiveness There is no scope of change We are hard-wired to do them Nothing in terms of betterment comes of it How to break old patterns Acknowledge ineffectiveness Prime yourself for change Realize that life is too short to keep running in circles Envision the growth you want and make a plan to reach there Start being pumped Stick to the plan without paying heed to environment,stress,business cycle changes Surround yourse...