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The mimicry of intimacy



         We often see that there are some women who have a series of failed relationships .The relationship ends because the man could not commit or cheated.Each of their relationships ends due to similar reasons.

The men she chose were often distant/made intermittent contact, were emotionally unavailable or controlling and abusive-none of which bode well for the success of a relationship .

Let us look into the reasons for the same:
The woman was raised by an imbecile father who was emotionally distant OR she was raised by an abusive father
The woman's father was never truly intimate
She learnt never to rely on another man
She subconsciously chose men who were only peripherally present but emotionally absent and were not after her heart because they felt familiar due to subconscious programming
She suffered from the 'father wound' which is basically a deep wound due to a father who emotionally abandoned her by being distant/abusive/unavailable

Thus, one chooses partners who mimic intimacy due to subconscious programming and underlying childhood abuse.



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