TransformYourLife

Emotional healing is the process of acknowledging our childhood wounds, behavior patters and traumas which prevent us from having healthy relationships and living a whole life.We often set up therapy sessions/read self help books/hire an online coach/attend community help healing sessions and the likes to change our patterns and evoke self love.Further, we journal, spend time with nature, meditate and relax to effect faster change. After a while, the changes start to take place.Within 8-12 months, we have undone our patterns, healed our wounds and start to attract healthier relationships.We feel energized, whole and happier.We believe this change is permanent. However, oftentimes during periods of loneliness, trauma or loss, the old patterns crop up.Self love goes out of the window.Neediness, clinging, jealousy, rage, avoidance, emotional dishonesty , witholding love,codependence raise their ugly head.Negative emotions buried deep within raise their ugly head. We relapse into ol...

There was an era when those suffering from plague were considered lethal and shunned at all costs.In today’s world, the plague has been replaced by mental health.Those with anxiety, depression,bipolar/suicidal thoughts or more serious forms of mental illness and disorders like narcissistic personality disorder and schizophrenia are treated as   though they are terrorists with a bio-gene out to destroy our planet by supposedly healthy people.They are unable to form friendships,have a good social life and end up living cloistered lives from the fear of being found out.Loneliness, shame and depression become their unwanted companions. Here is how those with mental health issues can destroy the stigma around it: ·                 Understand that suffering from a mental health issue is not a bad thing (it’s not something to be guilty of like maybe killing someone)           ...

Cheer up honey Why are you always glum? No matter what I do for you, you’re never happy!Phew! Stop being so darn lazy ! Why are you sleeping all the time? Gosh, you’re so clumsy ! How can your mood swing so much ?You were normal 2 mins back and now you’re in tears! Why are you always snapping at people? Why can’t you just get over it? You’re useless around the house!

The following are main characteristics of good therapy and differentiate it from substandard one a)Good therapy is not friendship The therapist is supposed to be a person to understand you and where you’re coming from , spot your issues and suggest methods to change also hand holding while you change.They are supposed to point out when you’re backsliding and be direct with you.You are not supposed to get   so comfortable around a therapist the way you would around a friend that you stop taking them seriously. b)A good therapist does not over-promise or judge Many therapists claim to overhaul your entire life in a week and silently judge the client for any inherent foibles.Good therapists base micro-goals for clients on their current situation and create a safe space for them to open up without any judgement c) Good therapy models accurate timely feedback and   change is progressive There are people who spend years in therapy without making progress w...

“What will the neighbors think if they come to know I’m in therapy?” “I am suicidal but how can I go to a shrink?Nobody in m family ever has”. “What if my mother comes to know I am abusing weed if the therapist’s office calls?” “I am not crazy, why should I go a therapist?” “It is so darn costly to go to one.This will sort itself out on its own!” “I am good enough the way I am.So what if I’m addicted to porn and my marriage is falling apart , its not that lethal an addiction.I can stop anytime and don’t need that psychobabble”. These are some of the common reservations /stigmas/false stories one tells self before entering therapy. Therapy is not just for serious mental illness like schizophrenia or bipolar but is very useful in changing deeply ingrained patterns ,healing emotional wounds, understanding origin of trauma and healing it, stopping backsliding and leading an emotionally healthy life. Things therapy can help deal with include childhood emotional abuse,trau...

LIFE COACH VS. THERAPIST One of the most common misconceptions about  life coaching  is that it is therapy in disguise — or, worse yet, therapy from an unlicensed practitioner. In reality, life coaching is truly its own unique service designed to help people   meet the outcomes that will bring them success and fulfillment, in   all areas of life. Here are some of the differences between life coaching and therapy, and a basic guide for when each service is appropriate. DEFINING TERMS: LIFE COACH VS. THERAPIST What is therapy? Therapy, is a long-term process in which a client works with a professional to diagnose and resolve and heal problematic beliefs, behaviors, relationship issues, feelings ,emotional wounds and buried trauma and sometimes physical responses. The idea behind therapy is to focus on past traumas and issues to change self-destructive habits, repair and improve relationships and work through painful feelings. In this sense, therapy focuses on ...