TransformYourLife

There are times when one is destructively criticized and it feels like having a burning missile thrown in the face.It dissuades one at times, throws one out of balance.At other times the nasty words wound the psyche and a person feels anxious and sad. Destructive criticism is not something one can evade or avoid-it is going to come our way no matter what.The only way is to learn and understand how to deal with it . Below are powerful methods to deal with it. 1.Thanks for sharing When someone criticizes you, there is a tendency to either: a) argue back; or b)   keep quiet and hold back anger but at the same time, letting the words poison your mind. You should thank the person for letting you know. By doing this, you’re giving out the message you’re not going to let the rejection in. 2.Could you please repeat that? If the person continues to criticize you , ask him to repeat what he said. A person would usually back down at this point because he is...

Backlash after a presentation Negative comments from clients Being passed for a raise due to non-performance Failure at a project resulting in criticism The above are some of the forms of negative feedback.Negative feedback comes to us during all stages of life , even if we do not seek it.For the thin skinned, it results in feeling distraught and even a mild depression.For some others, it results in emotional shut down as a defense while few are incredibly angry at being told they suck at a particular thing. Negative feedback results in the above -mentioned defenses because it puts us in touch with our disowned parts and makes us feel toxic shame that we so vehemently are avoiding. The successful, however, take negative feedback in their stride and use it as a pointing tool towards self -improvement . Some of the ways to take negative feedback in our stride and grow from it are: a               Evaluate the sourc...