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4 powerful ways to deal with destructive criticism



There are times when one is destructively criticized and it feels like having a burning missile thrown in the face.It dissuades one at times, throws one out of balance.At other times the nasty words wound the psyche and a person feels anxious and sad.

Destructive criticism is not something one can evade or avoid-it is going to come our way no matter what.The only way is to learn and understand how to deal with it .

Below are powerful methods to deal with it.

1.Thanks for sharing

When someone criticizes you, there is a tendency to either:
a) argue back; or
b)  keep quiet and hold back anger but at the same time, letting the words poison your mind.
You should thank the person for letting you know. By doing this, you’re giving out the message you’re not going to let the rejection in.

2.Could you please repeat that?

If the person continues to criticize you , ask him to repeat what he said.
A person would usually back down at this point because he is being called out on being unreasonable and harsh which is scary
He’s more likely to apologize or ask you to forget what he said.

3.Tell them they’re projecting

Tell them that the people who baselessly criticize others are the ones who feel worthless and do so to falsely elevate themselves and that you will have none of that

4.I choose not to let it in

When the criticism is brutal,unwarranted and hurtful, tell the person that you know you are none of those things they accuse you of being and you choose not to let it in.This shuts them up.

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