Crossfinger theory and why it doesnt work

What is the crossfinger theory

The crossfinger theory implies that life is not in our control and that whatever comes our way we must take it and hope for the best always

Why it sucks

Makes you weak

Puts you out of drivers seat

You learn to leave things to chance or believe in destiny

You stop putting in efforts

You become ambivalent

You stop goal setting

You become mediocre

You settle for less than you deserve

You live a life of lack

What you can do to change it

Believe that your life is in your hands

Take back the control

Have a life purpose and life plan

Create detailed plan of life including financial,relationship, material ,spiritual success and chase these relentlessly

Break down goals into short, medium and long term goals and start acting on them

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